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You Are Very Special

 

Most of us don’t believe we are special.

We don’t deserve to be loved.

And no matter how much we try to talk ourselves out of not deserving, our past experience has told us over and over again, that we are not important, that we are no one.

We are definitely not loved.

It’s interesting because we can come from the most loving family or the most dysfunctional family and still feel that missing piece. The part of us that makes us feel whole.

This piece is the reason we try to find fulfilment outside of us.

We look for it in relationships, in alcohol, drugs, sex, money, career… and the list goes on.

We are constantly searching for that thing that is going to allow us to breathe and make us feel whole again.

What can we do? Most of the time it seems hopeless so we create our vision boards and our goals so that we will be contributing to society and making our life mean something.

Yet this is simply a distraction from the emptiness we feel inside.

When we have something to do, we feel better. Yet what if we simply be?

How would that feel?

For many of us, being still, being silent, just being is uncomfortable.

Our minds go crazy. Chatter, chatter, chatter! There is so much to do. How can we possibly justify being still for a moment?

Our feelings; the fear, the anger and the grief start to surface.

All the feelings we have suppressed since childhood and all of the suppressed emotions from generations before that are held as cellular memories are there ready for a moment to surface.

Aches and pains in our body will become apparent as we allow our body to communicate with us, giving us vital information about what we need in our life.

What do we do with our thoughts, emotions and body information?

We’ve never been taught what to do with them, we have, however, been taught to suppress them and get on with our life until they show up as mental health disorders or disease.

It's suppression that stops us from feeling special. Click To Tweet

It stops us because we become separate from who we really are. It builds a wall of energy around the beautiful person we were when we arrived and it snubs out our vital force leaving us tired all the time.

How do we feel special again?

How do we feel truly loved so that we don’t have to go looking elsewhere for it?

How do we contribute to life from a space of being whole?

We do it by connecting to who we really are. That small one who came into this world and was told they were wrong, mistreated or abused.

We parent ourselves.

We love ourselves and we treat our small one with love and respect.

We listen to what our small one has to say and we allow it to say whatever it needs to.

We let him or her know that they are safe, they are loved and that are whole and then we allow this beautiful small one integrate into us.

As we do this process on a regular basis we will find that we will become whole again. The bits of us that have been left behind, broken and damaged over the years will align with our highest expression and we will start to feel special again.

Not only will we feel special but the world around us will step up and show us that this is true.

This process is fairly simple, but definitely not easy.

If you take the step to nurture your small one, you will find there will be tears, anger, pain and more that will show up and it may take days, weeks or even months for each aspect of you to be resolved. But then again, it may take moments as each small one has individual experiences.

Every time I do this process I love myself more and more and it gets easier and easier to connect with that part of me that has been left behind.

My wish for you is to know that you are special beyond words, special beyond thought and special beyond feelings and I am here to support you as you discover this for yourself.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Ways To Attract Your Life Partner

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if Ms or Mr Right showed up out of the blue?

Well, it is possible, and usually happens when you stop looking. Yet how do you get to the point where you stop looking? How do you get to that feeling where you have completely given up and let go?

Sometimes it can be trickier than you expect it to be and with these 3 ways, you can let go of the search for your partner and still have the feeling that you are “doing” something for them to show up in your life.

 

 

3 ways to attract love into your life are:

  1. Universe, show me love
  2. Pull energy
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

After about 3 months (on and off) using these 3 steps, Scott magically appeared in my life.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

And of course, if you need any extra help, you can always connect with me and we can work through any blockages you may have together.

Loving you… Loving life…

Stop Trying To Fix The Illusion Of Life

Are you the person people always come to with their issues?

The one who fixes things?

Many people in the healing/helping industries are, yet are they really serving the other person?

I used to do this and it would drain me because I was trying to fix the unfixable. Trying to be of service and thinking that I was helping others by fixing their issues for them.

And then I realised something…

It’s not my responsibility to fix the illusion we live in.

I am choosing to be a conduit of consciousness and others are choosing whatever they choose.

I was at a social function a few years ago and Scott had a sore eye. The friend we were with asked me if I knew what was going on with it and if so why haven’t I fixed it?

I replied that, yes, of course, I knew what was going on and I hadn’t fixed it because it wasn’t my place to do so. It was his eye, his issue and he could do whatever he chose with it.

To our friend this seemed quite harsh because I could have easily taken away his pain, yet I could see that it wasn’t in his best interest to do so.

Have you ever looked at someone in pain and wanted to take the pain away?

I have many times and yet if you look into the energy of it, many times the pain is taking them to a point where they could make a choice that would change their life and why would anyone wish to take that away from them?

Many times when people come to me for consultations, either privately or through the Divine Love Club, they ready to make that choice and I am able to support the process of choosing.

And then, of course, there is the game of this wonderful illusion. That thing that we call reality, which is a mishmash of entangled energies that it is impossible to fix while we are enmeshed in it.

When I was studying counselling,, I was told not to sympathise with someone as that means that you will dive into the hole with them. Empathise with them and you’ll be out of the hole throwing a ladder down to them for them to climb out.

Taking that a step further and allow yourself to move out of the illusion of this reality. Come from a higher level of consciousness (this does not mean a better or worse – simply different) and if they choose to join you, that will be their choice.

When you move out of the reality, you are choosing for you and creating a world of joy, of peace and a place of understanding where you are able to see the illusion for what it is… a game.

If life is a game, then nothing really matters.

Things come and go, emotions knock us over and we get back up again. We hurt, we laugh, we cry, we comfort and we live. We’ve been doing this for many, many lifetimes on many planets and this moment is a pinprick in time that will be forgotten about in another moment.

We have the ability to open our energy and listen to our friend who is hurting and offer them nothing. They really need nothing from us because as we are opening our energy, their’s will resonate with our’s and they will find the solution within themselves.

Have you ever been asked your opinion and then the person did something completely different? Did you wonder why they asked you in the first place? Generally, it’s because they are processing, but people will do whatever they want to no matter what anyone says, so allow them to come to their own solution on their own time.

It is one of the greatest gifts anyone can give to you and you to others.

Are you ready to give up fixing the illusion?

Are you willing to allow others to come to their own solution?

Are you willing to stay open to the possibility that you may not like their solution?

Are you willing to allow others to live their journey?

Are you willing to stay open and open and open in your energy?

Would you?

Could you?

When?

If you’re struggling with other people’s choices or not wanting to feel rude or useless by not engaging in other’s drama, let me know and I’ll not fix you in any way shape or form.

Loving you… Loving life…

Treat Others The Way They Would Like To Be Treated

There is a golden rule: Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you.

Yet as I was listening to Jane Elliott of the blue eyes/brown eyes experiment, she said something that totally resonated with me.

Treat others the way they would like to be treated.

Have a think about it for a moment… wouldn’t you like other people to treat you with the way YOU would like to be treated? Not the way they think you should be treated or even the way they would want to be treated… the way you would like to be treated.

Although we are all one in our energy and our beings, we are still individuals with different desires and requirements on how to live. We all have our little idiosyncrasies that make us unique and allow us to contribute our brand of something special to humanity. And this means that we all would like to be treated in a certain way. We would like to be treated how we would like to be treated!

Search engines and internet marketers understand this as they retarget their ads to what the consumer is looking for, not what they think we should buy. Sometimes they get it wrong, yet most of the time because of the complex algorithms finding out about our likes and dislikes they can find out which ads placed on our computer screen will be the products we are looking for and we may need.

When others treat you the way they would like to be treated whose needs are being put first?

Their’s or your’s?

If you then get upset because of the way they are treating you they can’t understand what the problem is. Why would you be upset? What’s wrong? I’ve treated you exactly how I would like to be treated. Yet it’s not about them, it’s about you…

When I have someone over for dinner, I have a preference for them to stay out of the kitchen and relax. It is their turn to be waited on, yet I have many friends who love to come and help out, offer to do the dishes and join in. When I go to people’s place for dinner, I have to remind myself (depending on the friend) to offer to help out otherwise it may seem rude to them.

It’s something that I got from my grandmother. When she had guests she looked after them and then in return she was looked after when she enjoyed other people’s hospitality.

It’s a different perspective and preference yet it can lead to misunderstandings and projections of being rude.

So how do you find out how people would like to be treated?

There’s the direct approach… Ask them. Which works well in certain circumstances and not so well in others.

And then, of course, you can watch, listen and learn to follow the other person’s lead. This is one of the best ways to develop empathy and create an understanding of differences between people. It will not only create good will but also allow you to grow as a person.

Treating others the way they would like to be treated doesn’t necessarily mean that you become their doormat and you do everything they would like. Make sure you still stay true to you. If you don’t believe a particular action will enhance your life and the lives of others, don’t do it.

Remember say yes to you, although you can still do that with kindness and respect for others.

Differences are a good thing.

They allow us to acknowledge other’s perspective, create empathy and a safe space for us to share ideas as a community.

So if you find yourself in a position where you would like someone to treat you differently, ask yourself whether you are treating them how they would like to be treated and if you are treating you how you would like to be treated.

Of course, you can’t expect others to treat you how you would like if you don’t do the same thing for yourself.

We all have our journeys and we are navigating them the best way we know with the tools that we have in that moment, so take a look around at your friends and family and ask yourself, who am I not treating the way they would like to be treated and with a little bit of effort you may be able to turn around a tumultuous relationship into one of love, respect and empathy in a very short time.

If you are having difficulty wondering why you have to do all the work, rather than them treating you the way you would like, contact me and we can figure it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

I Just Want To Fix Them

Watching someone else in pain is hard.

You can see that they are struggling and you know that they can be helped, either by you or someone you know, yet they refuse help.

You may even think that they simply don’t want to help themselves.

And that may be the case, yet not quite the way you think.

I get told many times that someone’s friend needs to see me or someone’s child needs to have an appointment with me and it sends out a red flag.

I rarely see a child unless I have had consultations with the primary caregiver.

If you feel that someone else needs to see me, then I would suggest that you make an appointment so that we can look at the reason why you would like the other person changed.

To facilitate true change in someone, you need to let go of the fact that you think they are broken and that they need to be changed.

They are perfect, whole and complete just as they are and if you don’t see that, then it may be up to you to look at why it is so important for them to change for you.

When a person is struggling, more often than not, they do want to get help, yet if they can’t see a solution or they think that the situation won’t change, they will stay where they are until they do.

Has anyone ever come up to you with a product or a service that they say has helped them and know that it will be fabulous for you, yet you don’t take them up on it?

You may even see the benefit, yet you still don’t take action.

Or you may not see the benefit at all because you don’t see that there is much wrong with you in the first place!

This has happened to me many times.

And this is why, unless asked, I rarely give suggestions.

Life is a process and people have to go through their own journey… have their own process to learn and discover what they need to be happy within themselves.

And your happiness may not look like their happiness, so you never really know what people will take you up on.

So what do you do with your struggle, your pain as you watch a loved one struggle in their life?

You love them.

You hold space for them to find solutions for themselves.

And you’re there for them when they open up to possibilities in their life.

When I say, love them, I don’t mean be a door mat. Sometimes tough love is needed for people who are struggling.

I find that listening without coming up with solutions is a great way to be available for people.

Letting them know that you are available if they need any help.

Energetically staying open and trusting that they will find their way out of their struggle is an excellent space for you to be in.

Giving them up to God/Universe to look after will alleviate your responsibility and allow you to let go of wanting to control the situation.

Doing the flower meditation is also a great process to do as they are an aspect of you, so you’ll be able to work on yourself while they are doing whatever they need to do.

The main thing to remember is that you can not fix or change someone else. Click To Tweet

You can only be responsible for how you act rather than react to people and situations.

In Ho’oponopono, the belief is that you are responsible for everything and everyone in your world, and this is true. However, the trick is to let go of the outcome of what you would like your world to be.

The person you would like to fix is in your world. They are an aspect of you, so work on you. Not on them.

That’s when you will see the change…

Only when you work on you… For you!

Love you…

You are everything…

You are everyone…

You are ONE!

If you believe that someone else needs to have a consultation with me, maybe you might like to have that consultation instead?

Loving you… Loving life…

The Heartache Of Disappointment

Everyone has felt disappointment.

I did this morning when I woke up, took my temperature and realised that I still haven’t ovulated this cycle.

Yes, yes, we are still trying to have a family… ridiculous I know after all these years.

But I just can’t help it.

Luckily, I have the information that I use with clients so that I can move through these things fairly quickly and my favourite modality for disappointment is the Sedona Method.

If I didn’t use this technique the disappointment in one area of my life could have a major impact on every other aspect of my life and the lives of others.

So what’s the best way to deal with disappointment?

Firstly let me explain what I believe disappointment is…

Disappointment can come in different forms.

  • Disappointment of self
  • Disappointment of others
  • Disappointment of situations

Yet the essence of the disappointment is when your expectation of yourself, the other person or situation has not been met.

When you’re expecting something to occur and it does not happen that’s when the emotion kicks in… the sadness, the hurt, the mistrust, the heartache and the blame.

These beautiful emotions that allow you to express yourself in a way that can open you up to being more of who you truly are… but that’s a whole other post – or even many posts.

It’s the expectation and the blame that we need to look at when dealing with why a person becomes disappointed.

When you have an expectation that something will occur or even hope that it will occur in your life then you take yourself out of the present moment.

You’re living in the future.

There’s nothing “wrong” with living in the future, having goals and ambitions of how you would like your to be.

However, when you life in the present, this is where the magic is… Here and now.

In the now is where you can go beyond your expectations. Click To Tweet

What if you could let go of living in the future?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

What if you could live in the here and now?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

The next step is when we attribute blame to the situation we remove it from ourselves and become a victim.

It’s not our fault, it’s my body, the other person, the computer, my employer, the government, the weather and the list goes on…

When we’re willing to take 100% responsibility for our life, both our inner world and our outer world we are able to take back our power and let go of victimhood once and for all.

So are you willing to let go of being a victim and realise that the reason you’re disappointed is because of your own expectation and not the actions of something external to you?

Life is what it is.

You can’t be sitting and standing at the same time.

And even though you can take every effort to achieve an outcome, sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you would prefer.

So when you feel the emotions behind your disappointment, take a look around you.

Breath it in and come back to the here and now.

Be grateful for this moment in your life and ask yourself…

“In the grand scheme of things, does your expectation really matter?”

And you’ll probably find that your answer will be a no.

Of course, if it still matters, book your consultation with me today and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

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How To Prepare For A Relationship

Have you prepared for your relationship?

When you’re looking for a relationship a lot of the time, people don’t realise that they may not be ready for one when the perfect partner for you arrives.

In fact, you may not even recognise this person as a potential partner because you’re simply not prepared for a magical relationship.

I know that if I had met my gorgeous (to me) husband in my 20s or even early 30s, I would not have thought that we would be a good match.

In fact, when we met, we were both on RSVP and the way we had set up our profiles we would never have met!

Luckily the Universe had other plans.

So how do you prepare yourself for a relationship?

A great place to start is to ask yourself,

What if I am prepared to meet my life partner now?

And then let it go…

This is a great question to ask every day.

Next steps are:

  • Throw away your list of what you think you require in your list
  • Let go of past relationships and hurts
  • Develop and connect to more of who you are
  • Recognise the love you already have in your life

The list throwing away thing can be harder than you think because letting go of expectations can be tricky.

So, I suggest you write down everything you would like in a partner and ask yourself if you have those traits within you?

If you do, that’s great.

If not, then you have something to work towards!

Then of course BURN THE LIST!

I once did a process where I energetically disconnected from all past partners and it was freeing. I’ll go into the process another time, yet in the meantime, simply ask your body and being to be released from all past partners and align it into oneness now.

When this happens all the baggage that connects you to others will be gone so that you can start fresh.

Connecting and developing more of who you are is a simple process, yet when you are on a mission to find your life partner, it can be easy to gloss over.

If you don’t become the best of who you are, you will be attracted to someone who isn’t the best of who they… Click To Tweet

In self development, like attracts like.

You may find yourself in a relationship where your traits and behaviours complement each other, however, if you don’t appreciate and value yourself you will be attracted someone who doesn’t appreciate and value themselves.

And in turn they won’t appreciate and value you!

A quick tip is to grab my meditation and practice it twice a day for at least 2 minutes for 2 weeks and you’ll start to see the difference in the people you are attracted to.

… Notice all the 2’s there 😉

And the last step in this process is to recognise the love you already have in your life.

Because the universe is balanced, you will always find someone or something supporting you even when you feel unloved or unsupported.

So, when you feel unsupported in an area of your life, ask yourself,

Where in my life am I supported?

If you can’t come up with anything, know that I am supporting you!

And remember in your preparation, just know that he or she is out there looking for you too…

I wish you all the best in your journey into love and if you feel that you need deeper guidance to let go of anything preventing you from finding love, please book your consultation today.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Please Feel Your Emotions

Many of us are now being trained to bypass our emotions.

Let’s clear them, release them, return them to sender, let go of them, transform them and so on…

And sometimes this is appropriate.

Especially if you have your antennae on high alert and you’re picking up other people’s stuff.

But I’m talking about the times when the feelings that you have are actually yours.

Those times when you’re in pain. You’re hurt, sad, lonely, angry.

You remember don’t you?

Those emotions that are gut wrenching and make you think that you’ll never stop crying?

Well guess what?

The deeper you dive into those emotions the quicker you move through them and the less likely they get stuck in your body causing disease.

It’s also great to really feel the good emotions as well because emotions are neither good or bad, they are simply emotions that can either be felt or suppressed.

The choice is yours.

Little kids move through their emotions really quickly because they are in the moment feeling them and you can do this too.

The way I like to really get into my emotions so I can move through them is by imagining I’m diving into them. Like diving off a platform into a deep pool.

I learned this from Brandon Bays of The Journey.

When you dive into the core of an emotion, you’re able to look at what is under the emotion. And then under that and under that.

The emotions are able to shift and move… you know… energy in motion = e motion 😉 Click To Tweet

I won’t tell you what happens when you get under all the emotion, but it’s pretty spectacular and I urge you to give it a go.

Make sure you’re in a safe place without any distractions. Please don’t do this while you’re driving.

  • Think of a situation and feel the emotions associated with it.
  • Pick one emotion and name it.
  • Imagine the emotion is 100% more than what you’re feeling at the moment.
  • Dive into the core of the emotion.
  • Really feel it.
  • What’s underneath the emotion?
  • Name the next emotion?
  • Make it bigger and really feel it.
  • Dive into it.
  • What’s underneath?

If any people come show up, acknowledge them and thank them for being in the process.

Keep repeating this until you feel complete.

If you don’t know you’re complete, you’re not.

When you have completed the process you will know deep within that you are complete.

If you’re finding it difficult to go through this process you may have an underlying belief that you will not be safe feeling your emotions.

If this is the case, you can organise a consultation with me and I’ll facilitate you through and go even deeper as this is a belief that would have an impact in many areas of your life.

Let me know how you go in the comments.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Asking For Support – Clarity Session

Are you any good at asking for support?

What if you never had to ask for support?

From your partner, your family and your friends, colleagues or even clients.

What if all you required was to develop inner strength?

This clarity session is all about creating a structure for you to support you.

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