Stop Believing Your Feelings

One thing I have noticed about feelings is that they can change in an instant.

We have created a whole belief system around our feelings…

Good feelings

Bad feelings

Indifferent feelings all mean something to us.

Good – Great, let’s have a wonderful day doing things that are fun and we’re going to enjoy.

Bad – Let’s stay in bed all day with our head under the covers

Indifferent – Well… that could go either way, but generally, it’s a bit of a meh feeling that none of us really want to participate in.

We’re all searching for those good feelings to be motivated and happy and excited. Whereas, we can be all of those things before we feel the feelings.

Feelings are indicators of what is going on around us, not necessarily what is going on within us. Which is why, when you realise that feelings don’t mean much, you can “feel the fear and do it anyway” courtesy of Louise Hay.

How are you feeling right now?

Happy, sad, depressed, anxious, joyous or something else? That’s wonderful! Your antennae to pick up what is going on outside of you is working.

Now think back over the past week, month and year and give me a guestimate of how many feelings you have felt? A mega lot I’m guessing. And how did these feelings effect your life? Were these feelings true for you or were they something that was there until the next feeling came along?

Most of the time our lives are run by our thoughts or feelings and until we realise that they are simply there to let us know what’s going on with our external reality and not our own inner world, we can be sabotaged by them every moment of every day.

The majority of the time the feelings are not a premonition for what is going to happen throughout your day. Most of the time, the feelings will create your day, so you have the ability to change that and let go of the control these feelings have over us.

I will concede that there are some feelings that are a premonition, but from my experience and those that I have worked with who have accurate premonitions, they are very different from your run of the mill feelings that we know so well.

And when we let go of the idea that every feeling has the ability to foretell the future, you will find that your psychic ability in whichever form it may be, will become stronger.

Let me ask you some questions to alleviate the weight of the feelings that hinder you and your higher expression will start to shine through…

Is it time for you to let go of the importance we place on our feelings and go about our day?

Is it time for you to let go of the meaning we give our feelings?

Is it time for you to realise that feelings come and go and they have very little to do with our life and how we would like to live it.

This morning I woke up with a debilitating anxiety attack.

I have learned that an attack like this has no bearing on what is going on in my life and that there is someone in my frequency who is having difficulties with their life. Generally, it will be a client that will ring me in the next couple of days with an issue and the feeling will go away.

If I took this anxiety to mean something in my life, I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed and I certainly wouldn’t be able to do any of the work I have planned for the day.

The first thing that I do, is to be gentle yet tough with myself.

I feel the anxiety, no doubt. It is a physical attack on my system… so I breathe.

I take the time to allow the love from the universe to infuse my body and my being while I breathe.

I give gratitude to my body and my being while I breathe and I trust that this feeling will pass.

I am also propped up in bed writing this post so that I can share the process with anyone else who has ever suffered from anxiety while I breathe.

Intellectually, I know that I am safe and there is no need to be anxious, so I breathe.

If you find that you suffer from the feeling trap, there are a couple of steps that you can take that will allow you to let it go.

  1. Say to the feeling, “Thank you for the heads up, but you can return to whomever you belong.”
  2. Write about it. Getting it down on paper (or on your computer) is very cathartic.
  3. Breathe… 4 counts in, hold for 4 counts and 4 counts out.
  4. Know that you are not your feelings and that they do not have to control what you do in your life.

You can live your life without giving these feelings that aren’t your’s any thought or meaning. You don’t need to delve into the “why!” to resolve them as they are giving you the gift of coming back to present when you breathe through them.

So how do you feel today?

Are you going to let those feelings that aren’t even yours control your life or are you going to live the life of your highest expression?

I choose the latter and I hope you will too.

If you need any extra help with untangling from these feelings that can knock you around, I have a couple of choices for you – you can join us in the Divine Love Club and receive remote healings or have a private consultation with me. Either way, I am here to support you.

Loving you… Loving life…

PS. By the time I finished writing this post, I had an understanding of where the anxiety was coming from and it stopped affecting me. Pretty cool!

What If This Is All BS?

A few weeks ago, I was at lunch with a couple of friends and I called bullshit!

I called bullshit on myself and what I write on this website which shocked them completely. I do love shocking people.

Let me start at the beginning…

We were having a conversation about whether or not we believed in what I do for a living or what I write about on this website and as I know that everything – beliefs, knowings, truths are all flexible and changeable in a moment, I made the suggestion that everything on this site is bullshit.

Most people won’t understand this because they hold their beliefs so tight that if someone questioned them, their defences would rise and it would be on for young and old.

I don’t happen to be one of those people – or maybe this is a belief that I am flexible and changeable! However, it really doesn’t matter to me if someone doesn’t believe in what I write, say or do. It does matter to me wether I am giving value to my readers and clients and that they are transforming with the contribution of my facilitation.

Getting back to why I called bs and I think this can be a great suggestion for anything you come across in your life…

Don’t believe what other people say. Check in with your knowing and see if it resonates with you in this moment. You’re the only one who can be your own bs detector.

Don’t necessarily use other people’s findings as the be all and end all. Research can be skewed, writing comes through the writer’s filters and we are always finding new and interesting information.

Not so long ago, the atom was the smallest…. not true anymore.

Not so long ago, the earth was flat and the earth was the centre of the universe.

Not so long ago, we thought that disease was purely physical… yet many of my clients can tell you that it is not.

My point is that we really don’t know what we don’t know, so maybe it’s best to keep an open mind about any information we receive and ask more questions about it.

The universal energy loves an inquiring mind. It brings in creativity, ingenuity and so-called miracles for us to wonder at and go beyond the limitations that we are surrounded by.

What do you know about life, love and the universe?

Probably a lot more than you’re acknowledging. And if you care to acknowledge what you know, you’ll probably allow yourself to acknowledge that there is more information available to you than you could ever realise.

So, I call bullshit on everything that I have ever said and everything that i have ever written so that you can connect in with your being, your knowing and ask, “In this moment, is this true for me? And am I willing to go beyond any limitations that would prevent me from being the oneness of all that is?”

By asking questions like this, you’ll find that you’re own knowing will expand exponentially and you’ll start to remember all the things you don’t know that you know and bring in all the things that you may need to know for your life to be lived in alignment with your highest expression.

An exercise for you… if you wish… is to read through this website and read the information, then check in with your knowing and ask yourself if it is true for you. If it’s not, ask are you willing to connect with what is true for you? And write in the comments what you have come up with.

This process is amazing, but don’t take my word for it… try it out for yourself and learn what is true for you now and what will be true for you in the future, so that you can develop your inner strength and know who you really are.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you… the real you…

Loving you… Loving life…


Blame Me For Everything

What if you had someone to blame for everything that has ever happened in your life?

All the bad stuff that you think is ruining your life.

All the stuff that if it wasn’t happening, your life would be fantastic!

Well, you do… Me.

Yep. Blame me.

Blame me for the bad stuff, the ugly stuff, the hurtful stuff, the stuff that is uncomfortable.

Blame me.

Your child falls over… Rosemary’s fault.

You’re in financial ruin… Rosemary’s fault.

Your partner is in a mood… yep… Rosemary’s fault.

You can do it!

In fact, the more you blame me, the better!

You can even blame me for the good stuff, although most of you won’t do that because you think that the good stuff is worth holding on. Yet, the good, the bad, the indifferent is all made up of the same stuff (energy) and can all be thrown at my feet because it feels great!

Bring it on baby!!!!

So, now that you think I’m mildly crazy for taking the blame for everything in your life, that other person’s life, in fact, for everyone’s life, what is this all about?

When many people feel they are being blamed for something, especially if it is unjustly so, there is a resistance that can keep you stuck. It can hold the energy in place for years and have an affect on future decisions that will stop you from creating a life of fun and joy.

I remember when I was a child I would get the blame for things that I hadn’t done and it felt horrible. Why was I being punished for something I had nothing to do with?

Victim, victim, victim!

Now as an adult, I realise that the issue of blame had nothing to do with me and everything to do with them, so I’m happy to allow the energy to flow through me because that is all blame is… energy.

When I wasn’t able to receive the energy of blame, I became a right fighter. I would fight for my cause to the death. And that’s exactly what happened… I killed many relationships because I was fighting for what I believed was right.

I’m not saying for you to be a doormat and take abuse from others, simply allow the energy to flow through you easily and gently because blame rarely has anything to do with you and everything to do with the other person.

Of course, if it is an issue that you can remedy, by all means, help out. Do what you can to rectify the situation and give the other person some ease in their life.

Are you ready to let blame become a thing of the past in your relationships?

Are you willing to allow the energy of blame (and anything else) to flow through you like a gentle breeze?

Are you willing to drop your barriers, expand the love your have within your heart and be open to the energy being thrown at you?

Are you willing to feel blame as a gentle giggle?

Are you willing to realise that blame really doesn’t matter and that looking at the hurt behind the blame is more important than the blame itself?

When you are able to allow the blame to flow through you, you will find that blame rarely comes up in your world. People stop blaming you, you stop blaming people and things. You stop being a victim in your own world and that’s a really spacious place to be.

Right, wrong, good or bad, it really doesn’t matter because it is all the same energy, simply different sides of the same coin which we have judged and allowed it to have power over us.

Are you ready to take your power back?

Are you ready to be responsible for your own life?

Are you ready to blame me for EVERYTHING?

Are you ready and willing to untangle from the energy of blame, so it no longer exists in your reality?

By the way, it’s all my fault!

If you need a little help with this concept, let me know and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

A Gift Of Flowers

Using flowers to heal a relationship is something that many of us do.

We also give flowers

  • to say thank you
  • to give support
  • to offer condolences
  • to celebrate
  • to say “I love you”
  • and just because you can.

What if you gave flowers energetically to transform the dynamics of a connection you have with another?

This other person can be a colleague, a friend, a family member, someone you are having a love relationship with or a random person you met once.

If you have an issue with anyone, you can use this process to bring the connection back into harmony.

It’s simple and you can do it as often or as little as you choose.

Let’s start…

Take a deep breath in…. and let it out.

Imagine your energy is flowing to the core of the earth and the love of the earth bounces back up into your body.

Then allow that energy to flow up through the crown of your head and into the centre of the universe and bounce back down into your body where it will meet in your heart space.

From your heart space allow the energy to expand out into the world and beyond.

Now imagine this person in front of you…

And feel whatever you feel about the situation with this person….

The good, the bad, the indifferent.

Now imagine that you are giving this person a flower…

It can be any flower, any colour.

And then give this person another flower…

And another…

Until you sense a shift in the connection with this person.

The dynamic has now started to change.

What is actually happening in this process is that you are healing yourself as this person you are perceiving in your mind’s eye is actually that part of you that is being represented by this other person and the fact that they are showing up in this manner is giving you an opportunity to love you.

What a gift they are!

When you think about others in this manner, animosity seems to disappear and gratitude seems to miraculously appear.

Just think about it…

This other person, is showing up in your life to do you a favour. Click To Tweet

To annoy you, to hurt you, to frustrate you so much that you choose to do something about it and that is to heal that part of you that is connected to the annoyance, the hurt and the frustration!

And it is your choice as to what you do with this gift…

So what are you going to do with it?

Blame them for showing up for you?

Or thanking them for giving you the gift to love yourself?

If you need any extra help seeing this other person as a gift, please book in for a consultation and we’ll do it together.

Loving you… Loving life…


I Have Absolutely Nothing To Do!

What if you had absolutely nothing to do?

Just imagine it…

Allow it to resonate into your body, your system and deep into your soul…

Can you feel it?

Can you feel the tension dissipate as you allow yourself to relax and literally allow your body to unwind from everything that you need to do throughout your day.

Having time off from your busy life seems to be nearly impossible.

What with work, kids, partners, other family and your “me” time, there is no more time in the day to do nothing.

I’m writing this post today because I have a huge amount to do and a very strict deadline place on me by me!

And this is what many of us do.

We run the world!

We run our world!

There is simply no time to do nothing.

And when we do nothing we are generally doing something…

  • watching tv
  • helping out a friend
  • looking after kids

This is our down time.

So, what do we do to change this?

What do we do so that we can still do it all in the limited time that we have and still have time to do nothing?

Apart from getting someone else to do everything you need to do, we’re really in a bit of a quandary!

The first step to allowing space for nothing is to acknowledge that time is man made.

It’s a construct that we have put in place so that we can wrap our minds around the fact that everything is happening now, but we perceive it as past, present and future.

Let me give you an example of this…

Have you ever felt that you’ve lost time?

You were doing something that was taking all your focus and you don’t even know where the time has gone?

One minute it was 9am and the next 1pm?

And then on the other hand, have you ever felt that time stretched into eternity and you were wishing for the endpoint to appear?

Usually that happens when we’re really not enjoying ourselves.

Time is flexible, it is malleable and it is changeable. Click To Tweet

So how does this help us when we would really like nothing to do?

What if you didn’t really want to have nothing to do?

What if you simply wanted the feeling – the relaxed unwinding of your body – that doing nothing creates?

Well that’s easy!

As you go about your day, say to yourself…

“What if I had absolutely nothing to do today?”

And take a deep breathe…

As you start to feel the ease creep into your body you can repeat the affirmation throughout your day.

“I have absolutely nothing to do today!”

“I have absolutely nothing to do today!”

And guess what?

Saying “I have absolutely nothing to do today” will allow your energy to open up to more flow to happen in your life.

Things will magically start to fall into place and you’ll wonder where you got all this extra time.

It’s a crazy little tip and yet it works every time I have a crazy busy day.

What if you could use it on a regular basis?

How would that change your day, your week, your life?

You don’t need to answer these questions because as you read them, they are being asked to your other than conscious mind who is creating a way to show you how easily your life will flow.

Could you be in flow?

Would you be in flow?


Now that you have heaps of time on your hands, you have time to book your consultation with me and we’ll open you up to new possibilities of flow… aaahhhhh….

Loving you… Loving life…

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We Bought A House

Today I pick up the key for our new house.

It’s an exciting time for Scott and I as we start a new adventure renovating and putting our mark on our new home.

We’re living around the corner (almost) to a number of friends and looking forward to making new ones.

Our house is perfect for us, but if you had looked at our wish list when we first started house hunting you would think we had failed in our attempts to find the home we were looking for.

We set out looking for a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom home.

We bought a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom home.

We didn’t want a pool yet we now have a pool.

We wanted the living area to have a northern aspect, it has a southern aspect.

We didn’t necessarily want to renovate and we will be renovating the kitchen, bathrooms and laundry.

We wanted grass for the pups to play on and at the moment there is not a scrap of grass to be seen.

And the list goes on…

The funny thing about lists, goals, targets, whatever you want to call them is that unless they match the energy that will give you that sense of achievement, they mean nothing.

The energy of the house that we’ve bought is perfect for us.

It’s a home with a lot of love, fun and will enhance our lives. The rest is easy to work with when the energy is in alignment with you.

I once had a list for the type of husband I wanted.

My actual husband is not quite what I was looking for, yet he is exactly what I need.

When you’re looking at connecting with something, whether it’s a house, a partner, a job or even a more healthy body, take a look at the energy that you would like to feel when you have achieved the outcome and throw away your list.

Yes, throw away your list! Click To Tweet

The reason why I suggest it is that it’s your mind that needs the list and your mind doesn’t really know what you need in your life.

Your mind doesn’t really know what will enhance your life, what will give you the happiness you desire and what will allow you to create something beyond your imagination.

Connecting with the energy of what you truly desire is quite simple… 

  • Image how you would like to feel when you have it.
  • When you’re in a relationship with a person you love and they love you how will you feel.
  • Happy? Content? In awe that this has actually happened? Will you be laughing?
  • And now feel those emotions in your body, in your being.
  • Expand the emotions out of your body so that they encompass you and your world.

Enjoy them because that’s what you’re really desiring in your life.

Not some list.

So when you’re out there searching for something you think that you want, take a minute to connect with that part of you that already has it.

I don’t mean the list, I mean the energy of it within you.

Expand the energy and create a frequency and then ask it to come and find you.

Keep an eye out for it because it may just be something you least expect.

And then out of the blue…

The energy will hit.

And you will know when you have it.

If you need some assistance getting to the “having” stage, book your consultation today to receive some flow into your life.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Please Feel Your Emotions

Many of us are now being trained to bypass our emotions.

Let’s clear them, release them, return them to sender, let go of them, transform them and so on…

And sometimes this is appropriate.

Especially if you have your antennae on high alert and you’re picking up other people’s stuff.

But I’m talking about the times when the feelings that you have are actually yours.

Those times when you’re in pain. You’re hurt, sad, lonely, angry.

You remember don’t you?

Those emotions that are gut wrenching and make you think that you’ll never stop crying?

Well guess what?

The deeper you dive into those emotions the quicker you move through them and the less likely they get stuck in your body causing disease.

It’s also great to really feel the good emotions as well because emotions are neither good or bad, they are simply emotions that can either be felt or suppressed.

The choice is yours.

Little kids move through their emotions really quickly because they are in the moment feeling them and you can do this too.

The way I like to really get into my emotions so I can move through them is by imagining I’m diving into them. Like diving off a platform into a deep pool.

I learned this from Brandon Bays of The Journey.

When you dive into the core of an emotion, you’re able to look at what is under the emotion. And then under that and under that.

The emotions are able to shift and move… you know… energy in motion = e motion 😉 Click To Tweet

I won’t tell you what happens when you get under all the emotion, but it’s pretty spectacular and I urge you to give it a go.

Make sure you’re in a safe place without any distractions. Please don’t do this while you’re driving.

  • Think of a situation and feel the emotions associated with it.
  • Pick one emotion and name it.
  • Imagine the emotion is 100% more than what you’re feeling at the moment.
  • Dive into the core of the emotion.
  • Really feel it.
  • What’s underneath the emotion?
  • Name the next emotion?
  • Make it bigger and really feel it.
  • Dive into it.
  • What’s underneath?

If any people come show up, acknowledge them and thank them for being in the process.

Keep repeating this until you feel complete.

If you don’t know you’re complete, you’re not.

When you have completed the process you will know deep within that you are complete.

If you’re finding it difficult to go through this process you may have an underlying belief that you will not be safe feeling your emotions.

If this is the case, you can organise a consultation with me and I’ll facilitate you through and go even deeper as this is a belief that would have an impact in many areas of your life.

Let me know how you go in the comments.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Living In Your Dream Home – Clarity Session

Living in your dream home is a birth rite.

Your dream home, however, is not how it looks but how it feels.

What if you can transform your living space by transforming your inner world? Click To Tweet

What if your house is a reflection of you?

Are you willing to dissolve what is not working for you?


If you would like to use the space clearing process, click here.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Because Life Is A Work In Progress

I noticed on Facebook the other day…

That a friend who I haven’t seen in years posted that she needed some understanding because life is a work in progress.

Now, from that, I would surmise that she’s going through some difficulties at the moment and required some TLC from her friends, but really aren’t we all a work in progress?

Yes, sometimes it feels that you’re pretty much “there” and other times it feels like an insurmountable climb to where ever “there” is.

So I started thinking of all the times in my life and in my clients’ life that we judge ourselves on where we are supposed to be in our lives.

At age 20 we’re supposed to be …

At age 30 we’ve grown and now we’re supposed to be…

At age 40, 50, 60, 70, 80 and so on, we’re supposed to be somewhere where most of us aren’t!

Who says we’re supposed to be at all of these places at these ages anyway?

Our parents, peers, community, society?

Would we like to return all of these “supposed tos” to where they came from so that we can be who we are and acknowledge that we cannot be anywhere we are not?

We cannot be standing even if we’re supposed to be sitting, simply because we’re standing! Click To Tweet

And one of the easiest ways to stay where you are in life is to resist where you are because you think you should be somewhere else.

Are you willing to let go of the resistance of where you are?

Are you willing to be fully present with where you are?

Are you willing to breathe into the moment of where you are right now?

And just let all the “supposed tos” fall away…

So if you’re going through some stuff at the moment and feel that you need a little bit of tender loving care, know that…

  1. It is a perfectly normal part of life to go through stuff
  2. You are not alone – you can always reach out for help
  3. The more you resist your stuff, the longer it will hang around
  4. Enjoy the process because this is the stuff that life is made of!

If you would like to book a consultation, click here and we’ll connect.

Loving you… Loving life…

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