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The Power Of The Snake Vine Flower Essence

Have you ever felt undermined by your friends and loved ones?

If you had a little bit of encouragement from your friends or loved ones you could reach the stars? A little bit of support for you to acknowledge your dreams and your goals?

Yet when you tell someone, they may be supportive on the surface but underneath you can feel that they think what you’re doing is really stupid. I’ve had this many times in my life. Hey, I studied Flower Essence Therapy for heaven’s sake! Who believes in that garbage? It’s a complete waste of time.

And yet I now have a successful practice facilitating others to resolve any issues that stop them from having the life of their dreams. I’m the one that many people have come to after they have been to doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists as a last ditch effort to learn that they are not broken, resolve their issue (emotional or physical) and to go on to live enjoyable lives.

People don’t support one another until they can see that it is beneficial for their lives and the lives of others. In the meantime, know that you have your own support, determination and vision and of course the support of your higher self, your guides, and angels.

When you are propelled along by your inner knowing, even if it doesn’t make sense, it is a relief to have a flower that has a healing essence to encourage you.

Breathe into that knowing… it feels good.

The Snake Vine (Hibbertia scandensis all about resolving the inner conflict that we feel when others are undermining our dreams. It allows us to have the optimism and confidence to know that what we are doing is making a difference and allows us to carry on when others have abused our trust.

Healing Pathway of the Soul

Optimism and confidence energise us and brighten our mind. These positive feelings about ourselves only last, and can stand up to the test of negativity from others, when they are based on deep beliefs of the inner Self. Anything that comes from more superficial parts of us is easily assailable and often crumbles under pressure. The invincible optimism and confidence comes from knowing the Self so well and directing our activities from the noblest states of mind which we can wholeheartedly embrace.

By Vasu and Kadambii Barnao – Australian Flower Essences for the 21st Century

The above passage allows us to use this essence to live our best life. To connect in with who we are and to shine without being chopped down by others. It is time to let go of the “Tall Poppy Syndrome” and know that we have the ability to be open to the possibilities to contribute to ourselves and others.

It doesn’t matter if we change our minds. It doesn’t matter if we don’t even know what it is. All that matters is knowing that it is there and every step we take in our lives enables us to live a life of our highest expression.

If you are struggling to find or live on purpose imagine this flower is helping you every step of the way, stay present with where you are at the moment and pretend that what you are doing in every moment of every day is your life’s purpose.

You are on track.

Snake Vine is this month’s flower essence theme for the Divine Love Club. We have been using it in daily activations and will be the theme of the Coaching Call on the 25th of October 2016.

If you are interested in joining the group, click here and jump in. If you are reading this post after October 2016 come and join us anyway as you will have access to all past content in the Divine Love Club member’s area.

Loving you… Loving life…

What If You Emailed Your Complaints?

I was procrastinating the other day…

Or maybe I was guided…

Anyway, I was watching some morning tv and something was mentioned that I thought was GOLD!

And I needed to share.

I would love to credit whoever came up with this idea, but I can’t remember the show I was watching or who they were talking about.

So whoever you are… thank you.

Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve needed to vent?

Or have you ever been the sounding board for someone venting?

I’ve been in both positions.

Although less and less these days because I’m not really into going around and around in story land.

And when you get vented on, have you ever had that heavy feeling where all their icky energy has just been dumped on you?

And the person who is venting keeps telling the same story over and over again?

And there will be times where you’ll feel like avoiding certain people because you know that they are so stuck in their story and are a volcano of venting and you just can’t take it anymore?

If you’re nodding your head to all of this, know that you’ve probably done this too at some stage 😉

Well I have a solution…

What if when we feel the need to vent, complain, verbally barrage someone – anyone – with what is going on in our life we write it down in an email to ourselves!

Pretty cool huh?

There are a couple of reasons why this technique is sooooooo fantastic.

  1. It gives your friendship/relationship space to have more fun
  2. It allows you to dump all your frustrations, hurt, anger, upsets, etc onto the screen and out of your system
  3. If you choose, you can delete the emails as soon as you get them – Gone for good!
  4. Or you can use them as a form of self reflection – What exactly are you complaining about anyway and how often?

Remember if you are using the emails as self reflection, don’t dive back into the story again.

Stay detached as you look objectively at how many you have written to yourself over the past day, week, month.

You really don’t need to re-live the vitriol of the emails again and again as that would really defeat the purpose of venting in your emails in the first place.

As we go through life, I don’t think that many of us actually listen to what we are saying to ourselves, our friends and our loved ones.

We whinge, complain and judge and think that this is the way life is meant to be lived.

Well let me tell you, that whinging, complaining and judging is the easiest way to keep the situation in place. Click To Tweet

Energetically it keeps you stuck in fear and survival.

Wouldn’t the best place to change be in flow?

And that’s how the emails help – let your fingers do the talking and deleting from your inbox and your energy field.

Once you realise just how much you are venting – mostly about things that…

  1. Aren’t any of your business
  2. You can’t change
  3. You secretly like and don’t want to change

The venting will decrease and there will be more time and space for a new conversation to begin.

Let me know how you go with your emailing and if you need any extra assistance, book your appointment with me today.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Becoming A Mother

What do you need to become a mother?

This is something that I’ve been wondering about over the past 6 years and especially over the past few months.

You may or may not know this but Scott and I have been wanting to have children since before we got married.

I know more about the ins and outs of becoming pregnant than most people.

And have done more treatments – alternative and mainstream – than I care to think about.

I’ve facilitated the release of blockages to help women become pregnant.

And I’ve referred people to other therapists who are able to assist in couples creating beautiful families.

And yet for us…

We have furbabies.

One of whom has been barking at me all morning… and I’m just not getting it!

I’ve heard mothers of newborns sometimes don’t get what their bub is trying to tell them, but unlike me, they can’t just ignore their child and hope it gets better!

As I have walked this path of … whatever you want to call it!

On occasion it has felt like an obsession.

I’ve found some amazing practitioners who are available to give support for women who are on their way to becoming a mother.

Support is the piece that can make or break the wonderful experience of pregnancy and growing into motherhood.

What if you don’t have the support of your partner?

What if you don’t have the support of your family?

What if you have to work and don’t have the luxury of time to connect with your baby?

What if you have too much time and don’t know how to use it effectively so that you and your baby are nurtured?

Well… I’ve found a wonderful woman – Julia – who is an Ayurvedic Post-Partum Doula and is currently pregnant with her 3rd child.

She lives about 30 minutes from me and we have never met, simply because I’m not ready for her services.

However, I know that she has a fabulous website with freebies on it for you to enjoy if you’re about to become a mother of a newborn.

Just click here and you’ll be rewarded with love, kindness and support.

So, what is it about motherhood?

Most of us think it will just happen as soon as a baby pops out.

But it doesn’t does it?

Motherhood is something that you grow into. Click To Tweet

A phase in your life that needs nurturing and feeding as the child grows into adulthood.

When the opportunity is given, it is there to be cherished even when things seem to be falling down around you.

I remember dating a man who expected me to be as organised as his mother.

I was organised enough for me and possibly one extra, but I’ve never had reason to be as organised as someone who is responsible for little humans.

It is always something that I knew I would grow into when the time called for it.

His mother had had over 40 years experience of being organised and I bet when she started out she didn’t have it all together!

If you’re interested I’ll share with you a quick process for you to connect with your mother archetype.

You can listen to it here…

So what did you see?

How did you connect with the mother within you?

What questions did you ask and what were the answers?

This is a process that you can listen to and receive insights over and over and I invite you to do so, whether you have children or not.

And if you would like to know more about how to develop a deeper relationship with children in your life maybe a private consultation will assist you.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Is Monogamy The Only Way To Have A Fulfilling Relationship

Are humans supposed to be monogamous?

This is an interesting question, don’t you think?

I have clients who have relationships in all different forms…

  • Polyamorous
  • Monogamous
  • S&M
  • Swingers
  • Many who don’t have a definition
  • And others who have a definition but not a word for it

And they come to me not because they think their type of relationship is wrong for them, but for the usual reasons that any person has with relationships…

  • Insecurity
  • Miscommunication
  • Trust issues
  • Sexuality
  • And of course the biggie… Self Love Issues

I really have no set belief system about what style of relationship is the best way to have a relationship.

It’s really not up to me (or anyone else) to make judgements about another’s lifestyle. Click To Tweet

However, make sure that the relationship you have is one that works for all parties.

Be honest.

Be upfront.

If you decide that you would like to change the status quo of your relationship, let your partner know.

Take ownership of your actions.

Know that there are consequences for your actions.

Take 100% responsibility for your life.

Do what will enhance your life and the lives of those you are in relationship with.

But mostly, stay true to you.

People struggle in relationships every day and many of us are attracted to more than 1 person at 1 particular point in time.

We are living beings connecting with everyone all the time and if it is part of your life’s experience to have an attraction for another at a time that is deemed by society as inappropriate, it is up to you and only you to know what will work for you.

Before you jump into a relationship that takes you out of your comfort zone, please ask yourself a lot of questions…

What is this person/relationship giving me that I am unable to give to myself?

Who am I when I am in this relationship?

Will this relationship enhance my life?

Will my body thrive in this relationship?

Will my partner and other family members thrive while I am in this relationship?

What can I be and do differently to enjoy this relationship or any others I may have in the future, more than I can imagine?

What and who am I attracted to?

Am I willing to keep moving forward, no matter what happens in this relationship?

Remember, when asking the questions you’re not really looking for the answers rather than allowing them to be a tool for you to connect with your inner knowing of the situation.

When you connect with your knowing, you’ll be in flow and be able to trust that your choices will enhance your life and the lives of those around you.

When I was a flight attendant many moons ago, I realised that putting the oxygen mask on yourself first before helping others is an analogy for life in general.

You must love yourself first before you can have any type of relationship with another being.

So what do you choose?

Loving you… Loving life…

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How To Get Kids To Clean Their Bedroom

As you know I’m looking after my sister’s kids for 2 weeks while she is overseas.

And I’m learning new things every day.

My 2 nieces and nephew are all teenagers and have the usual (I am generalising here) messy bedroom syndrome.

And as I’m going through a clean out phase in my life, I thought it could flow onto their life too.

I get that it may be easier for me to implement because I’m the aunt that they see occasionally, but I bet that if you put a little bit of effort into it, this would work for you too.

It’s all about giving them a vision.

What would they like to do with their room.

They are growing, developing and changing.

Their bedroom needs to reflect this too.

I’m not talking about doing anything drastic like painting or re-carpeting… although you can do that if you feel like it.

I’m simply talking about clearing out what is no longer needed and moving some furniture around.

So, the brief I gave the kids was…

If you had a completely new room, that had the same layout and the same basic furniture, what would you like in it?

This means that they can move their furniture around, they can get rid of clothes that don’t fit, they can get rid of any old toys or school books they may have and start fresh.

Imagine if you just moved into a new house and you had a room and some furniture, how would you like your room to be now?

That gets the imagination flowing.

They get creative.

And they get cleaning!

I’ve also found that if you’re sitting there with a bag for the charity bin, a bag for the recycling and a bag for the rubbish that helps.

When you’re supporting their creativity and chatting with them as they pick up one item after the next, you are creating a deeper relationship and a beautiful memory.

Depending on the personality of the child this process can take a couple of hours or a couple of days.

My youngest niece (14) took a couple of hours and it was relatively pain free.

My nephew (11) started yesterday and it looks worse than when he started and will probably continue like that for the week and that’s ok.

My eldest niece (17) hasn’t even started… resistence!

Gotta love it 😉

If you’re saying to yourself… “Well, this will never happen with my child!” You are doing yourself and your child a disservice.

It may be a slightly different process, but I’m sure that you can work it out.

What if you could let go of all the projections you have about what your child will or will not do and see what happens?

What I am realising with these kids is that the more I stay open to different possibilities the easier it is for them to do what I would like to be done.

I trust that they will grow and develop into loving, caring beings…

Actually scrap that!

I trust that they are loving, caring beings and they are being the best version of themselves no matter how they show up.

Are you at loggerheads with someone in your family?

It’s ok.

It happens to everyone and now that you have recognised it you can remove yourself from the emotions of it.

Breathe.

Disentangle.

Align with Divine Love.

Allow it to integrate now.

And breathe…

Give them the space to become open to new possibilities and you never know what may happen… Click To Tweet

If you have teenagers and need a little outside perspective, book your appointment now. You’d be surprised just how much the dynamic can change with an energetic adjustment.

Loving you… Loving life…

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We Bought A House

Today I pick up the key for our new house.

It’s an exciting time for Scott and I as we start a new adventure renovating and putting our mark on our new home.

We’re living around the corner (almost) to a number of friends and looking forward to making new ones.

Our house is perfect for us, but if you had looked at our wish list when we first started house hunting you would think we had failed in our attempts to find the home we were looking for.

We set out looking for a 3 bedroom, 2 bathroom home.

We bought a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom home.

We didn’t want a pool yet we now have a pool.

We wanted the living area to have a northern aspect, it has a southern aspect.

We didn’t necessarily want to renovate and we will be renovating the kitchen, bathrooms and laundry.

We wanted grass for the pups to play on and at the moment there is not a scrap of grass to be seen.

And the list goes on…

The funny thing about lists, goals, targets, whatever you want to call them is that unless they match the energy that will give you that sense of achievement, they mean nothing.

The energy of the house that we’ve bought is perfect for us.

It’s a home with a lot of love, fun and will enhance our lives. The rest is easy to work with when the energy is in alignment with you.

I once had a list for the type of husband I wanted.

My actual husband is not quite what I was looking for, yet he is exactly what I need.

When you’re looking at connecting with something, whether it’s a house, a partner, a job or even a more healthy body, take a look at the energy that you would like to feel when you have achieved the outcome and throw away your list.

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The reason why I suggest it is that it’s your mind that needs the list and your mind doesn’t really know what you need in your life.

Your mind doesn’t really know what will enhance your life, what will give you the happiness you desire and what will allow you to create something beyond your imagination.

Connecting with the energy of what you truly desire is quite simple… 

  • Image how you would like to feel when you have it.
  • When you’re in a relationship with a person you love and they love you how will you feel.
  • Happy? Content? In awe that this has actually happened? Will you be laughing?
  • And now feel those emotions in your body, in your being.
  • Expand the emotions out of your body so that they encompass you and your world.

Enjoy them because that’s what you’re really desiring in your life.

Not some list.

So when you’re out there searching for something you think that you want, take a minute to connect with that part of you that already has it.

I don’t mean the list, I mean the energy of it within you.

Expand the energy and create a frequency and then ask it to come and find you.

Keep an eye out for it because it may just be something you least expect.

And then out of the blue…

The energy will hit.

And you will know when you have it.

If you need some assistance getting to the “having” stage, book your consultation today to receive some flow into your life.

Loving you… Loving life…

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The Heartache Of Disappointment

Everyone has felt disappointment.

I did this morning when I woke up, took my temperature and realised that I still haven’t ovulated this cycle.

Yes, yes, we are still trying to have a family… ridiculous I know after all these years.

But I just can’t help it.

Luckily, I have the information that I use with clients so that I can move through these things fairly quickly and my favourite modality for disappointment is the Sedona Method.

If I didn’t use this technique the disappointment in one area of my life could have a major impact on every other aspect of my life and the lives of others.

So what’s the best way to deal with disappointment?

Firstly let me explain what I believe disappointment is…

Disappointment can come in different forms.

  • Disappointment of self
  • Disappointment of others
  • Disappointment of situations

Yet the essence of the disappointment is when your expectation of yourself, the other person or situation has not been met.

When you’re expecting something to occur and it does not happen that’s when the emotion kicks in… the sadness, the hurt, the mistrust, the heartache and the blame.

These beautiful emotions that allow you to express yourself in a way that can open you up to being more of who you truly are… but that’s a whole other post – or even many posts.

It’s the expectation and the blame that we need to look at when dealing with why a person becomes disappointed.

When you have an expectation that something will occur or even hope that it will occur in your life then you take yourself out of the present moment.

You’re living in the future.

There’s nothing “wrong” with living in the future, having goals and ambitions of how you would like your to be.

However, when you life in the present, this is where the magic is… Here and now.

In the now is where you can go beyond your expectations. Click To Tweet

What if you could let go of living in the future?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

What if you could live in the here and now?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

The next step is when we attribute blame to the situation we remove it from ourselves and become a victim.

It’s not our fault, it’s my body, the other person, the computer, my employer, the government, the weather and the list goes on…

When we’re willing to take 100% responsibility for our life, both our inner world and our outer world we are able to take back our power and let go of victimhood once and for all.

So are you willing to let go of being a victim and realise that the reason you’re disappointed is because of your own expectation and not the actions of something external to you?

Life is what it is.

You can’t be sitting and standing at the same time.

And even though you can take every effort to achieve an outcome, sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you would prefer.

So when you feel the emotions behind your disappointment, take a look around you.

Breath it in and come back to the here and now.

Be grateful for this moment in your life and ask yourself…

“In the grand scheme of things, does your expectation really matter?”

And you’ll probably find that your answer will be a no.

Of course, if it still matters, book your consultation with me today and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

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What I Learned From A Concussion

Sometimes you have to be hit on the head to pay attention!

Have you ever been giving hints of something and not paid attention?

You would think I would know better considering the line of work I’m in, but when you want to get things done and to do so you need to power through, it is possible to overlook and ignore the warning signs.

A gorgeous lady I know (Maria Davis) has just done this and is now helping others from her experience.

She powered through and trained for and ran in the New York Marathon and has since been diagnosed with all sorts of ailments which are now forcing her to listen to her body.

We have all done something like this.

What if we could complete that process now? 😉

So, I was pushing through with my plans of moving house, developing a better relationship with my parents and creating more fantastic products for you guys and not listening to my body.

I knew my body was out of alignment.

I could feel it.

I knew I needed an alignment and Bowen Therapy kept popping into my mind.

I did nothing about it.

I knew I was going to trip over the computer power cord.

I didn’t move it.

I was ignoring all the signs.

So on the Thursday I slipped on the power cord and had bruise all down the right side of my body.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On the Sunday I hit my head on the frame of the fridge as I was getting up from the vegetable crisper.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On Wednesday I started to get a headache, my system was in shock and I got aligned.

And then I was in bed for 2 weeks!

Generally I don’t mind relaxing in bed as I have all my devices with me and can easily work, connect on Facebook and watch tv, if I so choose.

But when you have a brain injury, can’t string 2 words together and focusing your eyes hurt there is not much to do except be.

Being…

Not something I had been doing lately.

I was being in my work for the Divine Love Club, but not being for the sake of being.

I had been being for others, not for me.

And there had been a lot of doing!

In our world where doing is the most important thing to achieve what you think you want, being sometimes gets lost.

This also happens in relationships as your energy merges with another and you slowly but surely begin to lose that connection with yourself.

It doesn’t have to be that way and you can create a relationship beyond your dreams when you connect with you.

It takes 5 or 10 minutes a day to connect with the being that is you.

To breathe and be grateful for the beauty within and without and to create a day where you will be aware of what you are being shown by the Universe.

We are always lead in the direction that will bring us into love.

Whether you judge the direction as bad or good, that’s up to you.

The direction is simply a direction and how you choose to navigate it will allow you to stay on the same path or change directions.

If I had listened to myself when I first knew my body needed an alignment or even before that and simply had regular alignments, I may have been able to take the time to be during my day.

And I now ask the Universe/my other than conscious mind to complete that cycle so that I can now choose a different path.

My wish for you is for you to take a deep breath right now, connect with your heart space and to allow yourself the time to be in this moment.

Look around you.

What do you see?

What are you grateful for?

And what do you need to align yourself with your body and with Oneness?

What if you could disentangle from all that is going on with you, your body and your life right now?

And re-align with Oneness?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

And as you go about your day and live your life, remember to listen the whisper quiet awareness that has your back, be in the moment and take action when required.

And so will I!

On a side note, this could also have been an Upper Limit Problem or a mixture of both. It really doesn’t matter as my inner being has my back and I am now creating from the space of now.

Are you ready to create from now? If so, book your consultation with me today and you’ll be able to do it without being hit on the head!

Loving you… Loving life…

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What 100% Responsibility Actually Means

When someone says to take 100% responsibility to you, what does it actually mean?

Does it mean 100% responsibility for your actions only?

Does it mean 100% for you part in the situation?

Does it mean 100% with conditions?

Does it mean 100% for everything?

By everything I mean:

  • Your actions
  • The actions of others
  • How you react to others
  • Your relationships
  • Your environment – past, present and future
  • And everything I have left out that may show up in your world

EVERYTHING!

But… What if it isn’t your fault?

Responsibility isn’t about fault or who’s to blame.

Responsibility is about acknowledging that no matter what happens in your life, you have the choice to respond in a way that will be of benefit to all.

Responsibility - The Ability To Respond. Click To Tweet

You are the master of your life.

You can allow it to control you and become a victim or you can choose something different.

I am not saying for you not to feel the pain or anguish that comes from a situation.

As it is very important for you to feel your emotions.

Yet, when you get stuck in the blame game or wishing that the other person was not in your life that is when you are being controlled by your reality and in reaction rather than taking action.

Which one would you prefer?

I know that I choose being responsible for EVERYTHING in my life.

I first heard about this concept when I read Zero Limits by Dr Joe Vitale.

I was studying mind body medicine and kinesiology (2 separate courses) and I brought this up with both my teachers.

Neither of them had heard of this concept and were intrigued.

I started to notice other people in my world who, although they were well versed in various therapies were still struggling in their personal life.

So I started to use the Ho’oponopono technique on everything in my life… my internal world AND my external world.

As I said the magic phrases in my mind, I would imagine the other people, things or situations saying them in unison with me.

  • I love you
  • I’m sorry
  • Please forgive me
  • Thank you

My world started to shift dramatically. It was crazy.

The world looked more vibrant.

I was happier.

People around me were happier.

Some people left my life.

Some people stayed.

New people came into my life.

Until the day I met a man who was a victim… and life became a struggle again.

There was so much for me to be responsible for!

And that’s ok.

The reason it was a struggle was because instead of focusing on my responsibility I was focusing on his.

I had an agenda that he should be 100% responsible for his life too!

That’s not the way this works.

As soon as I realised this my life became easier again and my life came back into flow.

  • I love you
  • I’m sorry
  • Please forgive me
  • Thank you

Have you heard of Ho’oponopono before? Have you used it?

I’d love to hear your experiences.

Loving you… Loving life…

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