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Are You Really Breaking Up?

Sometimes relationships run their course.

You get together, you have a wonderful time and then you grow apart.

You have different interests, different levels of personal development and it’s time for you to move on.

I’ve seen this with clients over the years. They come to me with relationship issues, wanting to stay together, wanting to know if it is time for them to break up, wanting to ease the pain that comes with letting go of the dream that is “Forever After”.

Energetically there are times when a relationship changes and these are the turning points where you have choice.

Do you stay, do you go or do you float along not knowing, not doing anything?

This is the stage where most people break up.

You could be fighting all the time.

The sex could have disappeared.

Maybe you’re not attracted to them anymore.

There are many reasons for you to believe that it is over, but is it really?

Unless there is abuse, betrayal or something completely unforgivable, this may be the time of transition rather than a complete ending to the relationship.

Before a transition in a relationship there is a letting go of the old and this can happen in many ways, but the most obvious is a pulling away.

Couples pull away by triggering emotions in one another. Or pushing each other’s buttons!

Most of the time the button pushing is unintentional and we can’t find a way to change the path we are on.

You will be able to see the signs if the relationship is changing and you may assume that it is unsalvageable.

So how can you tell the difference?

Simple. Ask yourself questions.

I’m not talking about asking your mind or that hurt little one within who needs the reassurance from your partner that all will work out.

I’m talking about that part of you who knows.

That part of you who knows if you were going to stay together before you started living together. That part of you who knows the truth about what you desire in your life no matter what choices you make.

Your inner knowing.

Ask yourself if this is the end of the relationship or a transition.

If it is a transition, you will notice a shift in the way you feel about your relationship over the next week or so.

Your relationship will take on a new perspective and you will be encouraged to love and grow with your partner.

If it is the end, now that you’ve asked the question, you will know within yourself. There will be no second guessing and plans will be made for your future.

What I have found is that the majority of times, if couples do not ask themselves if they are going through a transition, they will assume that it feels like the relationship is coming to an end.

Unfortunately, a relationship that has more growth and love to come is left behind only to have to go through the whole thing again with someone new.

Someone new may sound fun and exciting, yet in a couple of years you’ll be at the stage of transition, being asked to choose again.

Is this something that you really want to do?

Or would you like to discover what is beyond this particular transition stage?

Life is funny, you’re going to get your lessons no matter who you choose to spend time with. They are going to press your buttons, they are going to give you everything you require to allow you to choose for you.

The question is, are you willing to do this with the person you are already with or would you like to find someone else to journey with.

Most times, not all, but most times people choose the one they are with.

My suggestion is to make that choice every day when you wake up.

Do you wish to be in relationship with your partner today?

If yes, great!

If no, is this a transition or is this the beginning of the end of this relationship for you?

It’s your life, your choice. What are you going to choose? Who are you going to choose?

I hope you choose you!

Loving you… Loving life…

Is There Such A Thing As A Soulmate?

I often get the question from clients searching for love – for their soulmate.

I wonder…

Maybe yes, maybe no…

What do you think?

Over the years of being in and out of relationships searching for that elusive man, I believed that there was a soulmate for me.

Yet on my wedding day of all days, I didn’t believe I was marrying my soulmate.

A little confusing? Yeh, I think so too!

After years of personal searching and many, many clients asking this question, I’ve come to the realisation that it’s our definition of soulmates that need to be looked at.

Many of us believe that a soulmate is someone who we simply can’t live without even if their actions make us cry every day.

Others believe that soulmates will be the one who will make us feel complete and that life will fall into place as soon as we are together.

So, what do you believe?

Truth… is what you believe true?

Or is it a lie for you?

Does your belief make you feel heavy or does it feel light and easy?

My take on this is that there are souls (people) who come to you over the course of your life and you can choose to be with them or not.

These souls are in your life to allow you to learn something, choose something and even bring more love into your life from the choices you make about the relationship.

These souls also have the same frequency or energetic patterns as whatever it is that you need to resolve within you.

They are a gift to you if you choose to love you.

So, what happens if one of you feels the connection and the other doesn’t?

Are you willing to hang around for the rest of your life to see if they are going to wake up and realise you’re the one for them?

Or are there others who are willing to enjoy your company?

Maybe you think that you have a past life connection with them, so that means that they are the one for you…

What if we looked at this logically?

How many people have you met this lifetime?

Hundreds, thousands, hundreds of thousands?

And how many lifetimes have you had, on this planet and on others?

So with that thinking, the importance of meeting in another lifetime is less significant than the vibrational frequency you are connecting with.

I’m not really answering the question because by asking all these questions I’m opening you up to another possibility.

What if soulmates are nothing what we believe? Click To Tweet

  • What if you could give up your idea of what a soulmate can and can not do for you?
  • What if you never ended up with your soulmate?
  • What if you were happy without your soulmate?
  • What if soulmates simply don’t exist?

Are you ready to let go of all your beliefs around soulmates?

  • What they are and what they are not?
  • Would you?
  • When?
  • Now?

Great!

Now that we’ve done that, you’re on the road to recognise a partner who will love you and treat you with respect that only a true soulmate will do.

And that’s how I now know that my soulmate for this moment in time is sitting in the room next to me watching the cricket.

Because on my wedding day, I was still searching for my elusive soulmate and when I let go of the search, I recognised him as my husband.

Don’t stay in a relationship that is wrong for you by using the soulmate excuse and don’t run away from a relationship because you don’t think they are your soulmate.

My wish for you is a loving relationship with the person who makes your heart smile.

And of course if you need a little extra help, book your consultation with me and we’ll work on finding your soulmate together.

Loving you… Loving life…

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The Heartache Of Disappointment

Everyone has felt disappointment.

I did this morning when I woke up, took my temperature and realised that I still haven’t ovulated this cycle.

Yes, yes, we are still trying to have a family… ridiculous I know after all these years.

But I just can’t help it.

Luckily, I have the information that I use with clients so that I can move through these things fairly quickly and my favourite modality for disappointment is the Sedona Method.

If I didn’t use this technique the disappointment in one area of my life could have a major impact on every other aspect of my life and the lives of others.

So what’s the best way to deal with disappointment?

Firstly let me explain what I believe disappointment is…

Disappointment can come in different forms.

  • Disappointment of self
  • Disappointment of others
  • Disappointment of situations

Yet the essence of the disappointment is when your expectation of yourself, the other person or situation has not been met.

When you’re expecting something to occur and it does not happen that’s when the emotion kicks in… the sadness, the hurt, the mistrust, the heartache and the blame.

These beautiful emotions that allow you to express yourself in a way that can open you up to being more of who you truly are… but that’s a whole other post – or even many posts.

It’s the expectation and the blame that we need to look at when dealing with why a person becomes disappointed.

When you have an expectation that something will occur or even hope that it will occur in your life then you take yourself out of the present moment.

You’re living in the future.

There’s nothing “wrong” with living in the future, having goals and ambitions of how you would like your to be.

However, when you life in the present, this is where the magic is… Here and now.

In the now is where you can go beyond your expectations. Click To Tweet

What if you could let go of living in the future?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

What if you could live in the here and now?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

The next step is when we attribute blame to the situation we remove it from ourselves and become a victim.

It’s not our fault, it’s my body, the other person, the computer, my employer, the government, the weather and the list goes on…

When we’re willing to take 100% responsibility for our life, both our inner world and our outer world we are able to take back our power and let go of victimhood once and for all.

So are you willing to let go of being a victim and realise that the reason you’re disappointed is because of your own expectation and not the actions of something external to you?

Life is what it is.

You can’t be sitting and standing at the same time.

And even though you can take every effort to achieve an outcome, sometimes it doesn’t work out the way you would prefer.

So when you feel the emotions behind your disappointment, take a look around you.

Breath it in and come back to the here and now.

Be grateful for this moment in your life and ask yourself…

“In the grand scheme of things, does your expectation really matter?”

And you’ll probably find that your answer will be a no.

Of course, if it still matters, book your consultation with me today and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

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You Know Everything You Need

It’s time to look within.

It’s been time for a long time but if you’re reading this and you’re ready… It’s time.

I see people in everyday life struggling.

Trying to figure out why tragedy and illness are happening in their lives.

I went through a stage like this, believing I was the victim of circumstances and asking for help from all directions to change the way my world seemed to be attacking me.

And sometimes when life isn’t doing what it’s told, I feel the possibility of me sliding back into victim hood where I look for answers outside of me.

I heed other’s opinions over my own inner knowing. I look for answers in what others may be able to do for me, rather than looking within.

What I have learned during these times… because other people’s answers are never to my satisfaction, is that the only answers I require comes from within me.

And the only answers you require come from within you. Click To Tweet

When you’re searching outside of yourself anxiety is bound to occur because nothing will truly resonate with you unless it comes from within.

I was asked today what courses I would recommend to be able to do what I do.

I said that (for this particular person) that I don’t recommend any. She has all the qualifications she requires. It is now up to her to find the answers from within.

So how do we find the answers?

Well… we ask questions!

If I’m stuck and don’t know what questions to ask, I ask…

“What questions can I ask to bring more clarity to this situation?”

And I let it go….

I’m not asking questions to anyone or anything specific and I’m not looking for answers from anyone or anything.

If you need something to quieten your mind, you could say you’re asking the Universe or your other than conscious mind. That’s up to you.

So think about something that’s going on in your life.

Something that may be frustrating you or if you don’t know what to do about something specific and ask…

  • What information will give me more clarity with ….?
  • If I choose … will my life, energy, joy, money flows be enhanced?
  • What am I doing to me that is reflected in this other person?
  • What if this situation turns out better than I could even imagine?

Open your mind and allow the questions to flow…

“What is the next step for me in this situation?”

And then take a breath.

Let the questions go.

The answers will come to you… in a minute, an hour, a day, a month, a year…

They will come when you are able to hear them.

What if you already knew the answers? (Which of course, you already do).

What would you say to yourself?

Imagine it’s a friend of yours asking the questions, what would you say?

All the answers are within you.

It seems that next month in the Divine Love Club, the intention is going to be to come from within. To know what we know and beyond and to feel safe our own knowing.

If you’re interested in being in that space, click here to find out more.

What we are really want to know is that life is going to be all right…

And guess what?

No matter what you are going through in this moment, you are going to be all right.

You are all right!

Loving you… Loving life…

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Tips For Business Success – Clarity Session

Business success can be tricky.

Especially when you have a million things going on in your life.

The first question to ask is…

What does business success mean to me? Click To Tweet

And then remember to ask your business – the energy of your business – if it would like to achieve that success.

 

If you would like to find out about one of Yvette’s businesses, check out Partridge and Pear.

 

If you would like some clarity in your life, book a consultation with me today.

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4 Steps To Increase Your Self Motivation

Did you know that there are 3 tips to increase your self motivation that can have a dramatic impact on achieving your targets?

Well there is and I use them all the time.

There are some people who are naturally motivated. They simply do what needs to be done to get where they want to go and then there are others (me included) who fight and struggle to get the motivation to do what is required to get to their target.

Some of us love external rewards and others (that would be me again) who are not motivated by external desires and if you fall into the latter category, then becoming motivated can be tricky for you.

Intrinsic motivation or motivation coming from within – inspiration – is something that is very personal for every person and yet it is more powerful than any external reason for doing something.

Motivation from within is when you find yourself doing something without struggle. You simply do it and it is fun, light and easy for you to do. There is also a sense of achievement that is felt after the action is taken.

It is the feeling of having a good habit without the effort of creating that habit to begin with.

So how do you create intrinsic motivation?

  1. Ask a question
  2. Align with the highest expression
  3. Embody the energy of the answer
  4. Go with the flow

Let’s start with 1. Ask a question.

An example of this is wanting to get fit, but you’re not the exercising type. You don’t have the energy to exercise and you don’t like how it makes you feel when you do exercise… no motivation there!

So, asking questions like “What adventures could I have in life where the side effect is getting fit?” or “How would my body like to look and feel?” and any other questions you can think of and then throwing them out to the Universe (in other words, not answering them with your cognitive mind) will allow an inkling or a feeling of the energy of those adventures or feelings to come to you.

Number 2. Very important! Aligning with the highest expression of what your intention allows the energy to flow more easily and for the answer to be something that you REALLY WOULD LIKE in your life. Not something that you think you want, but really don’t.

Number 3. Embodying the energy of the answer is simply that… allowing the energy or feelings you get from asking your question to expand and grow within you. Make it stronger and stronger.

If you don’t get an answer from your question, just trust that there is an energy that you are embodying. Imagining it works just as well and if you simply can’t imagine it, what if you could receive the information in a way that works for you?

Be the energy.

And then 4. Go with the flow means to take action. Sometimes this action can be to integrate the information by having a rest. It could mean that you go and do something that nurtures your body or it could mean that you get a burst of energy to move your body. I find that I tend to do something that is not directly related to the question I’ve asked until the next day. I have a day of integration or delay before I feel the desire to take action.

The key to having intrinsic motivation is not to force yourself to do anything that you think is going to get you to your target, but to trust that there is a time and place for everything and when it’s time then you’ll take action quickly, easily and the results will be better than you expected.

Remember, this is your life. You have choice and your choices are not wrong. They are simply choices.

So what are you going to choose today?

So…

What questions are you going to ask to activate your intrinsic motivation today? Click To Tweet

Need some help with intrinsic motivation, book a consultation with me today.

Loving you… loving life…

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You Are Stronger Than You Think

I see you and I KNOW in the depths of my being that you are stronger than you think!

How do I know this?

Didn’t you know I’m intuitive 😉

Well I am… we all are, but that’s not how I know.

I know because I see it in people all the time. When I’m walking down the street I can see that tired people are going to work… that takes strength.

When I see people going through internal struggles and they are asked to step up and help someone or contribute somehow, they do it and that takes strength.

And I see it when those who are so overwhelmed with life, their health, their relationships, they take a break from their responsibilities and they take some time for themselves and THAT takes strength.

And you who are reading this, I see you too and I know that you have more strength than you realise.

It’s interesting how others see strength in us before we do. Click To Tweet

There are a couple of tools that you can use to allow you to acknowledge the strength that you have within you.

Firstly, acknowledge where you are in your life is exactly where you are meant to be at this moment in time. You can’t sit and stand at the same time, so you are where you are.

When you don’t like where you are you have a couple of choices…

  1. Breathe into the resistance of where you are.

You can’t move from where you are when you are resisting it. Remember the old chestnut, “What you resist persists and grows stronger.”

  1. Connect with your centre and say to yourself, God, the Universe… “BRING IT ON!” And say it like you really mean it. Don’t mess around. Make that challenge because you’re strong enough to take it.

You can use both of those tools or one of them… or none. The choice is yours.

It may help you when making that choice to know that nothing that comes up in your life is too much for you. It may feel like it, but it’s not.

As I said, you’re MUCH stronger than you think.

If you choose to use number 2, just be aware that things may feel like they are getting worse for a little while, but you’ll shift through it much faster than you think because you’re moving through the resistance faster.

What if the Universe has your back?

What if you could never be given something in life that is too much for you?

What if you always had help and support as you move through what is holding you stuck?

What if resistance to anything in life was as easy as breathing into it?

What if you were stronger than you could ever imagine?

By breathing and using the “Bring it on!” technique you have the ability to surrender easily to the flow of the Universe which then allows you to become inspired in your life.

It gives you the strength that has been hiding under a rock. It gives you energy, clarity, joy, wellness and all the things that you are wanting to have in your life but are not showing up because you’re holding onto the resistance.

So if you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, depressed, angry, hurt, unwell and anything else that you may be going through at this moment of time…

Breathe and then challenge the Universe and allow it to show you just how strong you are!

If you need any assistance, you know where I am and you can book a consultation with me here.

Loving you… Loving life…

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How Do Questions Enhance Your Life?

Just How Do Questions Enhance Your Life?

For those of you who have known me for a while, I’m constantly banging on about how questions enhance your life.

Well… let me clarify that… asking the right questions enhance your life.

I started to consciously delve into asking questions in 2000 when I first learned how to use muscle testing to receive information from our bodies. And for those of you who don’t know what muscle testing is, it is an amazing process of using our body as a biofeedback system where you can ask it questions and get answers. Pretty cool, huh?

And what I learned by communicating with bodies over the years is that if you don’t ask the right question, you won’t necessarily get the answer that you require. You really need to be succinct and listen to what you are actually asking or you can end up with a completely different picture of what is going on with the person, than what is actually true.

So when I started to look at how we ask questions in our day to day lives, I realised that it’s the same thing as asking your body.

We all ask questions and most of us don’t even realise what we are asking, yet we always receive an answer to… Click To Tweet

When we ask a question like… “Why has this crappy thing happened to me?” the universe will give you an answer and show you more of the crappiness.

When we ask a question that has remorse or regret in it, like… “What if I had done this differently?” the universe will show you from the sense of emotion behind the question.

So how do we use questions to enhance our lives?

Easy… change the emotion behind the questions!

Here are some examples that I use on a regular basis:

  • What if my life turned out better than I could imagine?
  • Why am I so loved?
  • Why is it easy for me to forgive?
  • What if the Universe showed me love today?
  • Why does money flow to me easily?
  • Why do I create products that people find easily and love to buy?
  • Why do I love (fill in the name of the person)?
  • What if my body was healthier than I could ever imagine?
  • Why is my body so healthy?
  • Why is it so easy for me to go with the flow of life?
  • What if I created a community of like minded people who enjoyed my offerings?
  • Why is it easy for me to be a contribution to my life and the lives of others?
  • Who am I today?
  • What if my day was full of amazing adventures?

I think you get the gist of how the questions are asked by now…

If you’re having difficulty asking questions, start off with…

“What if….?” Use your imagination and have fun with all the things that could happen in your life.

Then move onto…

“Why…?” Stay positive and think about all the good things you would like the Universe to show you as to why they are happening in your life.

Something that I need to mention with regards to questions that some may get hung up on and that is that these questions are NOT TO BE ANSWERED BY YOUR THINKING MIND!

Questions like this are to be asked to the Universe, the Divine, to God, to your Other Than Conscious Mind, Your Higher Self… whatever you would like to call that energy that supports you through life and the answers will be shown to you in a way that you may not expect and in their own time.

When you answer with your thinking or cognitive mind, you’re simply bringing in more of the old belief system that got you in the position you’re in now. Give your cognitive mind a job to do, like read a book, do some work, go to a movie, do some exercise, while the answers are being processed and delivered to you.

The less you think about the answers the easier they come…

It’s like when you have a name on the tip of your tongue and as soon as you stop thinking about it, it comes to you. Or if you’re trying to figure out a problem and the more time you spend on it, the harder it is for you to come up with an answer and then if you go away and do something else, or have a sleep, it comes to you out of the blue.

Well the answers will come to you like this… and sometimes you won’t even realised you have received the answers, you’ll simply be living your life differently… as if by magic!

So, I dare you…

Start asking your questions. They can be different every day and you can even ask, “What questions would enhance my life today?” and start there.

If you would like to go deeper into flow, book a consultation with me today.

Loving you… Loving life…

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When We Need Some Motivation

Feeling Flat… When we need some motivation there are external things we can do to give us that boost.

You know, we all have things that we would like to achieve in our days, our weeks, our lives but when we’re feeling flat nothing seems to move in the right direction.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could get motivation in a can?

Well, you know… sometimes you can!

When you are lacking motivation, it can be caused by many things:

  • Lack of nutrition
  • An upset or stress in other areas of your life
  • Too much going on and you go into overwhelm and can’t do a thing
  • A resistance to a choice you made a long time ago

And generally when you have one of these things you will probably have another couple of these issues running around in your reality as well. Let me explain…

Lack of nutrition generally comes from not nurturing yourself with healthy foods that will energise and enhance your body, right?

So if you’re not feeding yourself properly, more often than not you are stressed out because your focus is on other areas in your life and you made a choice that you probably can’t remember where the outcome is the external stresses you are now facing.

If you have an upset in your life, that will be where your mental focus is and it will be taking all your energy away from what you would really like in your life.

And if you have too much going on, your adrenals will definitely be overworked and there goes all your energy. You won’t feed yourself properly and all your energy will be targeted to getting you out of bed and taking one step at a time! Not a lot left over for creativity and motivation.

And then of course there are the choices you have made over your lifetime that have contributed to where you are now… feeling flat and not having any motivation to do anything other than surviving another day.

Here are some steps (not in any particular order)  that you can take so that you can let go of where you are now and allow the motivation to reach your targets to flow through you…

  1. Go to a health care professional (Naturopath, Homeopath, Nutritionist, etc) who will be able to analyse what your body requires for it to perform at optimum level. It may take a couple of months for your body to get back into shape and you may need to move it a little too… go and move your body in a way it enjoys so that way you will have an exercise program that gives you enjoyment.
  2. Go to a mental health professional (Mind Body Medicine Therapist, Counsellor, etc) who will be able to give you tools to use when life comes and smacks you in the face when you least expect it. Flower essences are great to support you when you’re feeling down emotionally.
  3. Stop! Stop what you are doing right now. The world will not fall apart if you do not clean the house, take the kids to sport, go to work today. You have a choice on how long you would like to stop for, just remember that the people who achieve more in life take the most holidays from their job throughout the year.
  4. Are you willing to let go of all the choices you have ever made in your lifetimes and dimensions where you have been? The reason why I ask this is, when you make a choice you choose it and not choose that.  So you agree with your choice and resist the opposition of the choice. This creates a push pull in your system that requires a huge amount of energy to keep it in place. It also causes a lot of unfulfilled choices in your life because the more you resist something the more it has energy and comes alive. So could you let your choices go? Would you? When?

Motivation also comes when you have let go of any expectation on how your project will turn out in the end. Click To Tweet

We are so focused on the end game and the outcome, we forget that the secret sauce is in the journey of how it comes about. When you work on something with wonderment, creativity is included and the outcome can be beyond your expectation.

What are some goals you would like to achieve in your life, but you simply don’t have the energy to take that first step? Your motivation disappears when you are forced to take action and you end up not moving anywhere… you’re flat!

What if you could forget about the goal and do something along the lines of your goal right now?

For example… if you would like to get fit and reach a target weight, what if you could let go of what that target weight and fitness level is for you?

You, of course, know that moving your body will help you to achieve your target, however, what if you could do something today that was fun for you that allowed your body to move?

And what if you could wake up every morning and simply move your body in a way that is fun for you?

Do you see the difference in focusing on the target and enjoying the journey?

What I have found when people enjoy the journey, is that they are open to all the gifts they receive along the way.

For example…

  • Weight loss… learning to love their body each and every day
  • Studying… really understanding and enjoying the content of their subject
  • Business… more creativity… more fun… more profits
  • Relationships… more intimacy

And you can definitely work with targets this way and still meet your time frame. Simply say to yourself when you start on your journey, “My ideal outcome is…. or better” and have fun with it.

What if the journey of life will give you more motivation and creativity and fun than you could ever imagine? What if those flat days were simply part of the journey? And what if your targets turned out better than you could have ever imagined?

If you’re struggling to get moving in your life, book a consultation with me today and we’ll get life flowing for you.

Loving you… Loving life…

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