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You Are Very Special

 

Most of us don’t believe we are special.

We don’t deserve to be loved.

And no matter how much we try to talk ourselves out of not deserving, our past experience has told us over and over again, that we are not important, that we are no one.

We are definitely not loved.

It’s interesting because we can come from the most loving family or the most dysfunctional family and still feel that missing piece. The part of us that makes us feel whole.

This piece is the reason we try to find fulfilment outside of us.

We look for it in relationships, in alcohol, drugs, sex, money, career… and the list goes on.

We are constantly searching for that thing that is going to allow us to breathe and make us feel whole again.

What can we do? Most of the time it seems hopeless so we create our vision boards and our goals so that we will be contributing to society and making our life mean something.

Yet this is simply a distraction from the emptiness we feel inside.

When we have something to do, we feel better. Yet what if we simply be?

How would that feel?

For many of us, being still, being silent, just being is uncomfortable.

Our minds go crazy. Chatter, chatter, chatter! There is so much to do. How can we possibly justify being still for a moment?

Our feelings; the fear, the anger and the grief start to surface.

All the feelings we have suppressed since childhood and all of the suppressed emotions from generations before that are held as cellular memories are there ready for a moment to surface.

Aches and pains in our body will become apparent as we allow our body to communicate with us, giving us vital information about what we need in our life.

What do we do with our thoughts, emotions and body information?

We’ve never been taught what to do with them, we have, however, been taught to suppress them and get on with our life until they show up as mental health disorders or disease.

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It stops us because we become separate from who we really are. It builds a wall of energy around the beautiful person we were when we arrived and it snubs out our vital force leaving us tired all the time.

How do we feel special again?

How do we feel truly loved so that we don’t have to go looking elsewhere for it?

How do we contribute to life from a space of being whole?

We do it by connecting to who we really are. That small one who came into this world and was told they were wrong, mistreated or abused.

We parent ourselves.

We love ourselves and we treat our small one with love and respect.

We listen to what our small one has to say and we allow it to say whatever it needs to.

We let him or her know that they are safe, they are loved and that are whole and then we allow this beautiful small one integrate into us.

As we do this process on a regular basis we will find that we will become whole again. The bits of us that have been left behind, broken and damaged over the years will align with our highest expression and we will start to feel special again.

Not only will we feel special but the world around us will step up and show us that this is true.

This process is fairly simple, but definitely not easy.

If you take the step to nurture your small one, you will find there will be tears, anger, pain and more that will show up and it may take days, weeks or even months for each aspect of you to be resolved. But then again, it may take moments as each small one has individual experiences.

Every time I do this process I love myself more and more and it gets easier and easier to connect with that part of me that has been left behind.

My wish for you is to know that you are special beyond words, special beyond thought and special beyond feelings and I am here to support you as you discover this for yourself.

Loving you… Loving life…

What If This Is All BS?

A few weeks ago, I was at lunch with a couple of friends and I called bullshit!

I called bullshit on myself and what I write on this website which shocked them completely. I do love shocking people.

Let me start at the beginning…

We were having a conversation about whether or not we believed in what I do for a living or what I write about on this website and as I know that everything – beliefs, knowings, truths are all flexible and changeable in a moment, I made the suggestion that everything on this site is bullshit.

Most people won’t understand this because they hold their beliefs so tight that if someone questioned them, their defences would rise and it would be on for young and old.

I don’t happen to be one of those people – or maybe this is a belief that I am flexible and changeable! However, it really doesn’t matter to me if someone doesn’t believe in what I write, say or do. It does matter to me wether I am giving value to my readers and clients and that they are transforming with the contribution of my facilitation.

Getting back to why I called bs and I think this can be a great suggestion for anything you come across in your life…

Don’t believe what other people say. Check in with your knowing and see if it resonates with you in this moment. You’re the only one who can be your own bs detector.

Don’t necessarily use other people’s findings as the be all and end all. Research can be skewed, writing comes through the writer’s filters and we are always finding new and interesting information.

Not so long ago, the atom was the smallest…. not true anymore.

Not so long ago, the earth was flat and the earth was the centre of the universe.

Not so long ago, we thought that disease was purely physical… yet many of my clients can tell you that it is not.

My point is that we really don’t know what we don’t know, so maybe it’s best to keep an open mind about any information we receive and ask more questions about it.

The universal energy loves an inquiring mind. It brings in creativity, ingenuity and so-called miracles for us to wonder at and go beyond the limitations that we are surrounded by.

What do you know about life, love and the universe?

Probably a lot more than you’re acknowledging. And if you care to acknowledge what you know, you’ll probably allow yourself to acknowledge that there is more information available to you than you could ever realise.

So, I call bullshit on everything that I have ever said and everything that i have ever written so that you can connect in with your being, your knowing and ask, “In this moment, is this true for me? And am I willing to go beyond any limitations that would prevent me from being the oneness of all that is?”

By asking questions like this, you’ll find that you’re own knowing will expand exponentially and you’ll start to remember all the things you don’t know that you know and bring in all the things that you may need to know for your life to be lived in alignment with your highest expression.

An exercise for you… if you wish… is to read through this website and read the information, then check in with your knowing and ask yourself if it is true for you. If it’s not, ask are you willing to connect with what is true for you? And write in the comments what you have come up with.

This process is amazing, but don’t take my word for it… try it out for yourself and learn what is true for you now and what will be true for you in the future, so that you can develop your inner strength and know who you really are.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you… the real you…

Loving you… Loving life…

How To Get Past The Pain Of Infidelity

Infidelity is such a dirty word.

The betrayal, the hurt, the pain it brings up for people when they have just found out that they have been cheated on and the lingering effect it has on relationships to come.

I’ve worked with many people who have cheated and been cheated on and as they work on trusting themselves and others, they come to realise that infidelity can be a gift – but only if you allow it to be.

Let’s start with the cheaters.

To betray someone else’s trust and to cause the amount of pain to another shows you just how little they trust themselves. My understanding is that betrayal is a learned behaviour.

If you have ever cheated on someone, where in your life or your parent’s life have you or they been betrayed? I’m including your parents because of the generation impact that can be carried through your genes and being the sponge that you were as a child and picking up on your parent’s behaviour.

It could be that someone died when you were a child, after saying that they would be with you and not to worry about them. It could be that your parents got divorced – and I’m not saying that all children of divorced parents cheat. It could be that your close friend at school lied to you and you now understood that trust was not something that was important in the world. It could even be for revenge. It could be a number of different things that eroded away at your level of trust for yourself and for humanity.

I’m not asking you to condone a cheater’s behaviour, I’m simply looking at where it may have originated so that it can be let go.

Now let’s look at the cheatee.

When did you stop trusting your knowing?

Every time I ask a client who has been cheated if they knew beforehand that this was going to happen, when they tap into their knowing, they say YES!

To do this, take a deep breath and ask yourself,

“Truth, did I know that he/she was going to cheat on me when I first entered this relationship?”

“Have I learned all the lessons from this experience?”

“Is the karma complete?”

“Am I free from this cycle now?”

If the last 3 questions are a no, ask,

“Can I please learn these lessons easily, simply and gently and complete the karma now?”

And then let the question go to your higher self who will look after it for you.

Now it is time for the cheatee to begin to trust your knowing again so the pattern doesn’t continue.

Both parties can do this because at some stage the cheater has been betrayed too.

Sit in a busy shopping centre and connect with your inner knowing.

Ask your body to show you a yes and ask it to show you a no and it will respond so that you can continue to ask it questions.

Every time someone walks past you, ask your knowing,

“Can I trust this person, now and in the future?”

And then see how your body responds. Sometimes your mind will get in the way because you’ll be looking at the person and judging their looks and their energy, yet after some practice, you’ll notice the difference between your mind and your knowing.

When you get proficient at getting a response from your knowing and you can start to develop your trust levels with your friends and family. Remember though, EVERYONE lies. Even if they are little white lies or they simply don’t want to tell you something. And if you’re saying you never ever lie and you have people around you who lie, somewhere in your lives you have been just like them.

I know a hard pill to swallow, yet you wouldn’t be in this situation if you didn’t have a frequency within you to attract them.

When you ask about friends and family, trust yourself and see if you can let go of the judgement at the same time. A double whammy for you to work with.

Then the next step, when you are ready for a new relationship or to rekindle the old one, is to ask your knowing if you trust this person, now and in the future.

By asking these questions you will find that you never need to trust another person ever again. You simply trust your knowing and live your life with this source of strength within you.

An added bonus of asking these questions and developing your inner knowing is that you will stop attracting people who don’t trust themselves (the cheaters) and you can relax knowing that your relationships will be easier for you without always wondering if they are going to betray you in the future.

If you would like any extra help connecting with your inner knowing and letting go of the pain from betrayal, let me know and we can do it together.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Steps To Healing Relationships

The hurt, the anger, the pain of a damaged relationship can affect every aspect of your life.

Are you ready to let it go and move on? This doesn’t mean that you condone their behaviour, it simply means that you can let go of all the emotions that are damaging your life.

By healing your side of the relationship you are able to bring more joy, happiness and love into your life. You’ll be able to develop more loving relationships and complete the cycle that is caused by a lack of forgiveness.

Listen as I explain in more depth the 3 steps that will allow you to forgive and heal relationships.

 

 

The 3 steps are:

  1. Flower meditation
  2. Everywhere I’ve been there, everywhere I’ve done that
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

These simple yet very effective tips will allow you to be free of the pain you can carry around from your past and present relationships, so you can enjoy your life even more.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

Loving you… Loving life…

Treat Others The Way They Would Like To Be Treated

There is a golden rule: Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you.

Yet as I was listening to Jane Elliott of the blue eyes/brown eyes experiment, she said something that totally resonated with me.

Treat others the way they would like to be treated.

Have a think about it for a moment… wouldn’t you like other people to treat you with the way YOU would like to be treated? Not the way they think you should be treated or even the way they would want to be treated… the way you would like to be treated.

Although we are all one in our energy and our beings, we are still individuals with different desires and requirements on how to live. We all have our little idiosyncrasies that make us unique and allow us to contribute our brand of something special to humanity. And this means that we all would like to be treated in a certain way. We would like to be treated how we would like to be treated!

Search engines and internet marketers understand this as they retarget their ads to what the consumer is looking for, not what they think we should buy. Sometimes they get it wrong, yet most of the time because of the complex algorithms finding out about our likes and dislikes they can find out which ads placed on our computer screen will be the products we are looking for and we may need.

When others treat you the way they would like to be treated whose needs are being put first?

Their’s or your’s?

If you then get upset because of the way they are treating you they can’t understand what the problem is. Why would you be upset? What’s wrong? I’ve treated you exactly how I would like to be treated. Yet it’s not about them, it’s about you…

When I have someone over for dinner, I have a preference for them to stay out of the kitchen and relax. It is their turn to be waited on, yet I have many friends who love to come and help out, offer to do the dishes and join in. When I go to people’s place for dinner, I have to remind myself (depending on the friend) to offer to help out otherwise it may seem rude to them.

It’s something that I got from my grandmother. When she had guests she looked after them and then in return she was looked after when she enjoyed other people’s hospitality.

It’s a different perspective and preference yet it can lead to misunderstandings and projections of being rude.

So how do you find out how people would like to be treated?

There’s the direct approach… Ask them. Which works well in certain circumstances and not so well in others.

And then, of course, you can watch, listen and learn to follow the other person’s lead. This is one of the best ways to develop empathy and create an understanding of differences between people. It will not only create good will but also allow you to grow as a person.

Treating others the way they would like to be treated doesn’t necessarily mean that you become their doormat and you do everything they would like. Make sure you still stay true to you. If you don’t believe a particular action will enhance your life and the lives of others, don’t do it.

Remember say yes to you, although you can still do that with kindness and respect for others.

Differences are a good thing.

They allow us to acknowledge other’s perspective, create empathy and a safe space for us to share ideas as a community.

So if you find yourself in a position where you would like someone to treat you differently, ask yourself whether you are treating them how they would like to be treated and if you are treating you how you would like to be treated.

Of course, you can’t expect others to treat you how you would like if you don’t do the same thing for yourself.

We all have our journeys and we are navigating them the best way we know with the tools that we have in that moment, so take a look around at your friends and family and ask yourself, who am I not treating the way they would like to be treated and with a little bit of effort you may be able to turn around a tumultuous relationship into one of love, respect and empathy in a very short time.

If you are having difficulty wondering why you have to do all the work, rather than them treating you the way you would like, contact me and we can figure it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

What I Learned From A Concussion

Sometimes you have to be hit on the head to pay attention!

Have you ever been giving hints of something and not paid attention?

You would think I would know better considering the line of work I’m in, but when you want to get things done and to do so you need to power through, it is possible to overlook and ignore the warning signs.

A gorgeous lady I know (Maria Davis) has just done this and is now helping others from her experience.

She powered through and trained for and ran in the New York Marathon and has since been diagnosed with all sorts of ailments which are now forcing her to listen to her body.

We have all done something like this.

What if we could complete that process now? 😉

So, I was pushing through with my plans of moving house, developing a better relationship with my parents and creating more fantastic products for you guys and not listening to my body.

I knew my body was out of alignment.

I could feel it.

I knew I needed an alignment and Bowen Therapy kept popping into my mind.

I did nothing about it.

I knew I was going to trip over the computer power cord.

I didn’t move it.

I was ignoring all the signs.

So on the Thursday I slipped on the power cord and had bruise all down the right side of my body.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On the Sunday I hit my head on the frame of the fridge as I was getting up from the vegetable crisper.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On Wednesday I started to get a headache, my system was in shock and I got aligned.

And then I was in bed for 2 weeks!

Generally I don’t mind relaxing in bed as I have all my devices with me and can easily work, connect on Facebook and watch tv, if I so choose.

But when you have a brain injury, can’t string 2 words together and focusing your eyes hurt there is not much to do except be.

Being…

Not something I had been doing lately.

I was being in my work for the Divine Love Club, but not being for the sake of being.

I had been being for others, not for me.

And there had been a lot of doing!

In our world where doing is the most important thing to achieve what you think you want, being sometimes gets lost.

This also happens in relationships as your energy merges with another and you slowly but surely begin to lose that connection with yourself.

It doesn’t have to be that way and you can create a relationship beyond your dreams when you connect with you.

It takes 5 or 10 minutes a day to connect with the being that is you.

To breathe and be grateful for the beauty within and without and to create a day where you will be aware of what you are being shown by the Universe.

We are always lead in the direction that will bring us into love.

Whether you judge the direction as bad or good, that’s up to you.

The direction is simply a direction and how you choose to navigate it will allow you to stay on the same path or change directions.

If I had listened to myself when I first knew my body needed an alignment or even before that and simply had regular alignments, I may have been able to take the time to be during my day.

And I now ask the Universe/my other than conscious mind to complete that cycle so that I can now choose a different path.

My wish for you is for you to take a deep breath right now, connect with your heart space and to allow yourself the time to be in this moment.

Look around you.

What do you see?

What are you grateful for?

And what do you need to align yourself with your body and with Oneness?

What if you could disentangle from all that is going on with you, your body and your life right now?

And re-align with Oneness?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

And as you go about your day and live your life, remember to listen the whisper quiet awareness that has your back, be in the moment and take action when required.

And so will I!

On a side note, this could also have been an Upper Limit Problem or a mixture of both. It really doesn’t matter as my inner being has my back and I am now creating from the space of now.

Are you ready to create from now? If so, book your consultation with me today and you’ll be able to do it without being hit on the head!

Loving you… Loving life…

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You Know Everything You Need

It’s time to look within.

It’s been time for a long time but if you’re reading this and you’re ready… It’s time.

I see people in everyday life struggling.

Trying to figure out why tragedy and illness are happening in their lives.

I went through a stage like this, believing I was the victim of circumstances and asking for help from all directions to change the way my world seemed to be attacking me.

And sometimes when life isn’t doing what it’s told, I feel the possibility of me sliding back into victim hood where I look for answers outside of me.

I heed other’s opinions over my own inner knowing. I look for answers in what others may be able to do for me, rather than looking within.

What I have learned during these times… because other people’s answers are never to my satisfaction, is that the only answers I require comes from within me.

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When you’re searching outside of yourself anxiety is bound to occur because nothing will truly resonate with you unless it comes from within.

I was asked today what courses I would recommend to be able to do what I do.

I said that (for this particular person) that I don’t recommend any. She has all the qualifications she requires. It is now up to her to find the answers from within.

So how do we find the answers?

Well… we ask questions!

If I’m stuck and don’t know what questions to ask, I ask…

“What questions can I ask to bring more clarity to this situation?”

And I let it go….

I’m not asking questions to anyone or anything specific and I’m not looking for answers from anyone or anything.

If you need something to quieten your mind, you could say you’re asking the Universe or your other than conscious mind. That’s up to you.

So think about something that’s going on in your life.

Something that may be frustrating you or if you don’t know what to do about something specific and ask…

  • What information will give me more clarity with ….?
  • If I choose … will my life, energy, joy, money flows be enhanced?
  • What am I doing to me that is reflected in this other person?
  • What if this situation turns out better than I could even imagine?

Open your mind and allow the questions to flow…

“What is the next step for me in this situation?”

And then take a breath.

Let the questions go.

The answers will come to you… in a minute, an hour, a day, a month, a year…

They will come when you are able to hear them.

What if you already knew the answers? (Which of course, you already do).

What would you say to yourself?

Imagine it’s a friend of yours asking the questions, what would you say?

All the answers are within you.

It seems that next month in the Divine Love Club, the intention is going to be to come from within. To know what we know and beyond and to feel safe our own knowing.

If you’re interested in being in that space, click here to find out more.

What we are really want to know is that life is going to be all right…

And guess what?

No matter what you are going through in this moment, you are going to be all right.

You are all right!

Loving you… Loving life…

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Love Through The Eyes Of Judgement

Has anyone ever told you they love you?

Have you ever been told that they love you while they are telling you you’re fat/thin/stupid/smart/lacking motivation or any other judgement either good or bad.

I have many times…

“I’m saying this because I love you and I want you to be happy.”

Talk about mixed messages!

And it’s not really the person’s fault.

It’s what they’ve been taught is love.

It’s the only way they know how to show love… until they know something different.

Did you know that you can not judge and love someone at the same time?

You are either judging them or loving them.

One or the other.

Not both.

And if you’re judging someone else rather than loving them, you are probably judging yourself rather than loving you.

It’s time to change the pattern that has come through your family for many, many generations.

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It starts with you…

Whenever you catch yourself judging someone for their weight, their clothes, their behaviour, their spelling… and the list goes on…

Stop yourself and ask,

“Am I judging or loving in this moment?”

What if you could then choose to love the person just as they are and where they are in this moment on their life’s journey?

What if, even if you don’t like or condone their behaviour, you can still love them rather than judge them for behaving in this manner?

What if you can choose your behaviour towards them… and ultimately towards you… in this moment?

And what if you chose love?

Of course you could choose to judge… their is no judgement around that 😉 You’re simply choosing something else – LOVE – in this moment.

When you can feel the judgement of others pounding down upon you, instead of judging them for it, know that this is the way they have been taught to love and love them for doing the best that they can in the moment of now.

What if it was easy to choose love over judgement?

What if love was your natural state of being?

What if it was ok to judge, it’s simply that you’re choosing to love?

What if judgement no longer existed?

What would your relationship with yourself and others be like then?

It’s not up to you to change the way people behave towards you, it’s up to you to choose something different in the way you behave towards others.

Are you ready to become aware of how much you judge yourself and others?

Are you ready to acknowledge when you judge others?

Are you willing to change your choice by loving others instead of judging them?

I know you can do it!

Break the cycle that is insidious in humanity and let’s choose love.

Need some help giving up judgement? Book a consultation today and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving me… Loving life…

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P.S. I’m Australian and in Australia judgement is spelled with an e 😉

Too Many Choices – Clarity Session

When you have too many choices paralysis can set in.

So when you come to a crossroad in your life, what do you do? Weigh up the options, look at the pros and cons?

Or do you connect with your inner knowing and see what your life would be like in 1000 years if you picked each choice?

Check out the video as we go through the process of choosing between two or more options in relation to a job.

This tool can be used with any choice that you’re required to make… relationships, buying houses, deciding on where to go on holiday… you name it, you can use it.

 

 

What would your life be like in 1000 years if you booked a consultation with me?

Click here and book now!

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