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Stop Believing Your Feelings

One thing I have noticed about feelings is that they can change in an instant.

We have created a whole belief system around our feelings…

Good feelings

Bad feelings

Indifferent feelings all mean something to us.

Good – Great, let’s have a wonderful day doing things that are fun and we’re going to enjoy.

Bad – Let’s stay in bed all day with our head under the covers

Indifferent – Well… that could go either way, but generally, it’s a bit of a meh feeling that none of us really want to participate in.

We’re all searching for those good feelings to be motivated and happy and excited. Whereas, we can be all of those things before we feel the feelings.

Feelings are indicators of what is going on around us, not necessarily what is going on within us. Which is why, when you realise that feelings don’t mean much, you can “feel the fear and do it anyway” courtesy of Louise Hay.

How are you feeling right now?

Happy, sad, depressed, anxious, joyous or something else? That’s wonderful! Your antennae to pick up what is going on outside of you is working.

Now think back over the past week, month and year and give me a guestimate of how many feelings you have felt? A mega lot I’m guessing. And how did these feelings effect your life? Were these feelings true for you or were they something that was there until the next feeling came along?

Most of the time our lives are run by our thoughts or feelings and until we realise that they are simply there to let us know what’s going on with our external reality and not our own inner world, we can be sabotaged by them every moment of every day.

The majority of the time the feelings are not a premonition for what is going to happen throughout your day. Most of the time, the feelings will create your day, so you have the ability to change that and let go of the control these feelings have over us.

I will concede that there are some feelings that are a premonition, but from my experience and those that I have worked with who have accurate premonitions, they are very different from your run of the mill feelings that we know so well.

And when we let go of the idea that every feeling has the ability to foretell the future, you will find that your psychic ability in whichever form it may be, will become stronger.

Let me ask you some questions to alleviate the weight of the feelings that hinder you and your higher expression will start to shine through…

Is it time for you to let go of the importance we place on our feelings and go about our day?

Is it time for you to let go of the meaning we give our feelings?

Is it time for you to realise that feelings come and go and they have very little to do with our life and how we would like to live it.

This morning I woke up with a debilitating anxiety attack.

I have learned that an attack like this has no bearing on what is going on in my life and that there is someone in my frequency who is having difficulties with their life. Generally, it will be a client that will ring me in the next couple of days with an issue and the feeling will go away.

If I took this anxiety to mean something in my life, I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed and I certainly wouldn’t be able to do any of the work I have planned for the day.

The first thing that I do, is to be gentle yet tough with myself.

I feel the anxiety, no doubt. It is a physical attack on my system… so I breathe.

I take the time to allow the love from the universe to infuse my body and my being while I breathe.

I give gratitude to my body and my being while I breathe and I trust that this feeling will pass.

I am also propped up in bed writing this post so that I can share the process with anyone else who has ever suffered from anxiety while I breathe.

Intellectually, I know that I am safe and there is no need to be anxious, so I breathe.

If you find that you suffer from the feeling trap, there are a couple of steps that you can take that will allow you to let it go.

  1. Say to the feeling, “Thank you for the heads up, but you can return to whomever you belong.”
  2. Write about it. Getting it down on paper (or on your computer) is very cathartic.
  3. Breathe… 4 counts in, hold for 4 counts and 4 counts out.
  4. Know that you are not your feelings and that they do not have to control what you do in your life.

You can live your life without giving these feelings that aren’t your’s any thought or meaning. You don’t need to delve into the “why!” to resolve them as they are giving you the gift of coming back to present when you breathe through them.

So how do you feel today?

Are you going to let those feelings that aren’t even yours control your life or are you going to live the life of your highest expression?

I choose the latter and I hope you will too.

If you need any extra help with untangling from these feelings that can knock you around, I have a couple of choices for you – you can join us in the Divine Love Club and receive remote healings or have a private consultation with me. Either way, I am here to support you.

Loving you… Loving life…

PS. By the time I finished writing this post, I had an understanding of where the anxiety was coming from and it stopped affecting me. Pretty cool!

Stop Trying To Fix The Illusion Of Life

Are you the person people always come to with their issues?

The one who fixes things?

Many people in the healing/helping industries are, yet are they really serving the other person?

I used to do this and it would drain me because I was trying to fix the unfixable. Trying to be of service and thinking that I was helping others by fixing their issues for them.

And then I realised something…

It’s not my responsibility to fix the illusion we live in.

I am choosing to be a conduit of consciousness and others are choosing whatever they choose.

I was at a social function a few years ago and Scott had a sore eye. The friend we were with asked me if I knew what was going on with it and if so why haven’t I fixed it?

I replied that, yes, of course, I knew what was going on and I hadn’t fixed it because it wasn’t my place to do so. It was his eye, his issue and he could do whatever he chose with it.

To our friend this seemed quite harsh because I could have easily taken away his pain, yet I could see that it wasn’t in his best interest to do so.

Have you ever looked at someone in pain and wanted to take the pain away?

I have many times and yet if you look into the energy of it, many times the pain is taking them to a point where they could make a choice that would change their life and why would anyone wish to take that away from them?

Many times when people come to me for consultations, either privately or through the Divine Love Club, they ready to make that choice and I am able to support the process of choosing.

And then, of course, there is the game of this wonderful illusion. That thing that we call reality, which is a mishmash of entangled energies that it is impossible to fix while we are enmeshed in it.

When I was studying counselling,, I was told not to sympathise with someone as that means that you will dive into the hole with them. Empathise with them and you’ll be out of the hole throwing a ladder down to them for them to climb out.

Taking that a step further and allow yourself to move out of the illusion of this reality. Come from a higher level of consciousness (this does not mean a better or worse – simply different) and if they choose to join you, that will be their choice.

When you move out of the reality, you are choosing for you and creating a world of joy, of peace and a place of understanding where you are able to see the illusion for what it is… a game.

If life is a game, then nothing really matters.

Things come and go, emotions knock us over and we get back up again. We hurt, we laugh, we cry, we comfort and we live. We’ve been doing this for many, many lifetimes on many planets and this moment is a pinprick in time that will be forgotten about in another moment.

We have the ability to open our energy and listen to our friend who is hurting and offer them nothing. They really need nothing from us because as we are opening our energy, their’s will resonate with our’s and they will find the solution within themselves.

Have you ever been asked your opinion and then the person did something completely different? Did you wonder why they asked you in the first place? Generally, it’s because they are processing, but people will do whatever they want to no matter what anyone says, so allow them to come to their own solution on their own time.

It is one of the greatest gifts anyone can give to you and you to others.

Are you ready to give up fixing the illusion?

Are you willing to allow others to come to their own solution?

Are you willing to stay open to the possibility that you may not like their solution?

Are you willing to allow others to live their journey?

Are you willing to stay open and open and open in your energy?

Would you?

Could you?

When?

If you’re struggling with other people’s choices or not wanting to feel rude or useless by not engaging in other’s drama, let me know and I’ll not fix you in any way shape or form.

Loving you… Loving life…

Treat Others The Way They Would Like To Be Treated

There is a golden rule: Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you.

Yet as I was listening to Jane Elliott of the blue eyes/brown eyes experiment, she said something that totally resonated with me.

Treat others the way they would like to be treated.

Have a think about it for a moment… wouldn’t you like other people to treat you with the way YOU would like to be treated? Not the way they think you should be treated or even the way they would want to be treated… the way you would like to be treated.

Although we are all one in our energy and our beings, we are still individuals with different desires and requirements on how to live. We all have our little idiosyncrasies that make us unique and allow us to contribute our brand of something special to humanity. And this means that we all would like to be treated in a certain way. We would like to be treated how we would like to be treated!

Search engines and internet marketers understand this as they retarget their ads to what the consumer is looking for, not what they think we should buy. Sometimes they get it wrong, yet most of the time because of the complex algorithms finding out about our likes and dislikes they can find out which ads placed on our computer screen will be the products we are looking for and we may need.

When others treat you the way they would like to be treated whose needs are being put first?

Their’s or your’s?

If you then get upset because of the way they are treating you they can’t understand what the problem is. Why would you be upset? What’s wrong? I’ve treated you exactly how I would like to be treated. Yet it’s not about them, it’s about you…

When I have someone over for dinner, I have a preference for them to stay out of the kitchen and relax. It is their turn to be waited on, yet I have many friends who love to come and help out, offer to do the dishes and join in. When I go to people’s place for dinner, I have to remind myself (depending on the friend) to offer to help out otherwise it may seem rude to them.

It’s something that I got from my grandmother. When she had guests she looked after them and then in return she was looked after when she enjoyed other people’s hospitality.

It’s a different perspective and preference yet it can lead to misunderstandings and projections of being rude.

So how do you find out how people would like to be treated?

There’s the direct approach… Ask them. Which works well in certain circumstances and not so well in others.

And then, of course, you can watch, listen and learn to follow the other person’s lead. This is one of the best ways to develop empathy and create an understanding of differences between people. It will not only create good will but also allow you to grow as a person.

Treating others the way they would like to be treated doesn’t necessarily mean that you become their doormat and you do everything they would like. Make sure you still stay true to you. If you don’t believe a particular action will enhance your life and the lives of others, don’t do it.

Remember say yes to you, although you can still do that with kindness and respect for others.

Differences are a good thing.

They allow us to acknowledge other’s perspective, create empathy and a safe space for us to share ideas as a community.

So if you find yourself in a position where you would like someone to treat you differently, ask yourself whether you are treating them how they would like to be treated and if you are treating you how you would like to be treated.

Of course, you can’t expect others to treat you how you would like if you don’t do the same thing for yourself.

We all have our journeys and we are navigating them the best way we know with the tools that we have in that moment, so take a look around at your friends and family and ask yourself, who am I not treating the way they would like to be treated and with a little bit of effort you may be able to turn around a tumultuous relationship into one of love, respect and empathy in a very short time.

If you are having difficulty wondering why you have to do all the work, rather than them treating you the way you would like, contact me and we can figure it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Blame Me For Everything

What if you had someone to blame for everything that has ever happened in your life?

All the bad stuff that you think is ruining your life.

All the stuff that if it wasn’t happening, your life would be fantastic!

Well, you do… Me.

Yep. Blame me.

Blame me for the bad stuff, the ugly stuff, the hurtful stuff, the stuff that is uncomfortable.

Blame me.

Your child falls over… Rosemary’s fault.

You’re in financial ruin… Rosemary’s fault.

Your partner is in a mood… yep… Rosemary’s fault.

You can do it!

In fact, the more you blame me, the better!

You can even blame me for the good stuff, although most of you won’t do that because you think that the good stuff is worth holding on. Yet, the good, the bad, the indifferent is all made up of the same stuff (energy) and can all be thrown at my feet because it feels great!

Bring it on baby!!!!

So, now that you think I’m mildly crazy for taking the blame for everything in your life, that other person’s life, in fact, for everyone’s life, what is this all about?

When many people feel they are being blamed for something, especially if it is unjustly so, there is a resistance that can keep you stuck. It can hold the energy in place for years and have an affect on future decisions that will stop you from creating a life of fun and joy.

I remember when I was a child I would get the blame for things that I hadn’t done and it felt horrible. Why was I being punished for something I had nothing to do with?

Victim, victim, victim!

Now as an adult, I realise that the issue of blame had nothing to do with me and everything to do with them, so I’m happy to allow the energy to flow through me because that is all blame is… energy.

When I wasn’t able to receive the energy of blame, I became a right fighter. I would fight for my cause to the death. And that’s exactly what happened… I killed many relationships because I was fighting for what I believed was right.

I’m not saying for you to be a doormat and take abuse from others, simply allow the energy to flow through you easily and gently because blame rarely has anything to do with you and everything to do with the other person.

Of course, if it is an issue that you can remedy, by all means, help out. Do what you can to rectify the situation and give the other person some ease in their life.

Are you ready to let blame become a thing of the past in your relationships?

Are you willing to allow the energy of blame (and anything else) to flow through you like a gentle breeze?

Are you willing to drop your barriers, expand the love your have within your heart and be open to the energy being thrown at you?

Are you willing to feel blame as a gentle giggle?

Are you willing to realise that blame really doesn’t matter and that looking at the hurt behind the blame is more important than the blame itself?

When you are able to allow the blame to flow through you, you will find that blame rarely comes up in your world. People stop blaming you, you stop blaming people and things. You stop being a victim in your own world and that’s a really spacious place to be.

Right, wrong, good or bad, it really doesn’t matter because it is all the same energy, simply different sides of the same coin which we have judged and allowed it to have power over us.

Are you ready to take your power back?

Are you ready to be responsible for your own life?

Are you ready to blame me for EVERYTHING?

Are you ready and willing to untangle from the energy of blame, so it no longer exists in your reality?

By the way, it’s all my fault!

If you need a little help with this concept, let me know and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

And Sometimes Life Is Chaos

Most Fridays I go to my parent’s place to work and have a catch-up.

It is one of my most productive and chaotic days of the week. For some reason, neither of my parents think I do much of anything, so because I am within calling distance, I am able to assist them with anything they think is of utmost importance to them.

I hear this a lot with parents who are trying to start a new business or carve some time for themselves. Between work and the kids and their partner, etc, etc., where do they find the time to make space for what they would like to create and develop.

What I have found is that when you are busy, time becomes a lot more fluid. You are able to create in a short amount of time, what would normally take you 3 times longer. You are able to connect with self quicker and more easily simply because you have to. There is no time to mess around. You just do it.

This is one of the reasons I teach people to connect with their knowing quickly.

Sure, you can take the time to go slowly and luxuriate in the moments between your breath. You can take more than a moment to connect with the earth and then with the centre of the universe before bringing the energy into your centre and then allowing the energy to flow out to all, while still staying connected with your centre.

Or you can say, “Centre” and be there in an instant.

It may feel a little different, yet it will still have the same power, the same outcome as if you go slowly.

The main reason people focus on the slower, meditative way is because so many people would benefit from slowing down every so often. I meditate the slow way. Yet I also connect with my centre the quick way too.

It’s good to have options and on Friday’s I’m generally going down the fast lane knowing that my higher self can move a lot faster than I give it credit.

Many people when they come to me are suffering because of the chaos in their lives. The juggling of the balls in the air, thinking that life as they know it will come to an abrupt end if they drop one of these balls.

I wonder what would happen if they learned not only to slow down and breathe but to speed up and thrive in the chaos? What if you could trust that the universe does not give you anything that you can’t handle? What if you could connect to your centre, your inner knowing in an instant and although you are running a hundred kilometres an hour, you are exhilarated at the end of the day rather than exhausted?

There are 3 things to consider when you are jumping into the enjoyment of chaos.

  1. Does it really matter?What is the worst case scenario if you drop the ball? Will anyone die? Will people be disappointed? Maybe, maybe not but in the grand scheme of things over all the millions of lifetimes you’ve lived, this moment is just that, a single moment and if you drop the ball there will be consequences but I’m sure you’ll be able to deal with them. You may even find that something better happens that you hadn’t even thought of.
  2. Breathe.Many of us stop breathing when in chaos. We go into fight or flight and our adrenals take over. What if we could put the timer on our phone? 15 minute intervals where you remind yourself to breathe and enjoy the chaos.
  3. Know that you are being supported.We are told that we only use 10% of our brain. If this is the case, then what if we are aware of only 10% of our being – 10% of who we are? What if, even though we are unable to connect with the other 90%, it is still there supporting the 10% that sometimes feels a little lost. If you trusted that you’ve got this, you are supported even if it doesn’t feel like it. You are going to be all right.

When you play with those 3 aspects you’ll find that the chaos of your life, the drama of others and the pace of your life is fun. It’s a game and creativity, collaboration and enjoyment can come from whoever you are with.

There are people who thrive in chaos and there are others who like the quieter side of life. Neither way is better, it is simply a preference. My thoughts are… What if you could enjoy both?

If you live in a chaotic world and would like a little help to navigate through it to enjoyment, please drop me a line and we can work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

Worst Case Scenario

I’ve always been a little bit worried about how people who aren’t open to what I do would judge me.

Have you ever been concerned about other’s opinions of you?

Friends, family, acquaintances…

This would generally come up if you have some form of rejection as a core issue for you in your morphic field.

So I was at Rikka Zimmerman’s Life Transformed workshop in Los Angeles the other day (which was fabulous by the way) and I realised just how intrinsic rejection was in my field.

I knew that there was something there, yet I couldn’t put my finger on it.

This happens a lot and I see it with clients.

Core issues can be very difficult to see from your own perspective. Click To Tweet

They put themselves into areas of their life so that it will show up over and over again until they see it and allow it to be released and for many of us, we won’t know what it is until someone points it out to us and we’re ready to receive that information.

So this happened to me in the course and then later that night the people who I didn’t really want to know what I did for a living found my videos online.

And guess what happened?

I didn’t die.

I didn’t cry.

I didn’t go into the fetal position and hope that the world would open up and swallow me.

On the contrary.

I wished that I had more online for them to see.

I wished that I had opened up and allowed all my skills to assist those who need them.

I wished that I had contributed more to help others.

Yet there is no way that I could have done or been anything different at the time before the rejection was cleared out of my system.

I was simply being me.

To take a look at your core issue, take a look at some worst case scenarios that you wouldn’t want to happen in your life.

It could be that your relationship breaks down.

It could be that you lose all your money.

It could be that your personal choice gets taken away.

And you’ll notice that you keep choosing partners or situations where you’re the one that creates situations where this happens.

For example, in between being a flight attendant and a counsellor, I worked in sales… talk about rejection!

I would start off being the highest seller and then magically couldn’t make a sale to save myself.

I created the rejection.

Another example was that before meeting my gorgeous husband, I would pick men who I would think were rejecting me, but I was actually pushing them away.

Pretty cool, huh?

Now, your issue may have nothing to do with rejection and these examples may not resonate with you, yet there will be a pattern that you have created in your life that is trying to tell you something about your deliciously juicy core issue.

And this issue will have a direct effect on EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE!

So take the time and write down what sort of jobs do you gravitate to, what sort of partners do you bring into your life and how do you feel about your life in general.

And then of course, ask the magical question…

“Show me and allow me to clear the core issue that affects every aspect of my life?”

And trust that it will eventually appear and be released easily and effortlessly.

If you need some extra help with this, please know that I’m available for private consultations to be that outsider who is able to see what is difficult for most of us to see within ourselves.

Loving you… Loving life…

How To Get Kids To Clean Their Bedroom

As you know I’m looking after my sister’s kids for 2 weeks while she is overseas.

And I’m learning new things every day.

My 2 nieces and nephew are all teenagers and have the usual (I am generalising here) messy bedroom syndrome.

And as I’m going through a clean out phase in my life, I thought it could flow onto their life too.

I get that it may be easier for me to implement because I’m the aunt that they see occasionally, but I bet that if you put a little bit of effort into it, this would work for you too.

It’s all about giving them a vision.

What would they like to do with their room.

They are growing, developing and changing.

Their bedroom needs to reflect this too.

I’m not talking about doing anything drastic like painting or re-carpeting… although you can do that if you feel like it.

I’m simply talking about clearing out what is no longer needed and moving some furniture around.

So, the brief I gave the kids was…

If you had a completely new room, that had the same layout and the same basic furniture, what would you like in it?

This means that they can move their furniture around, they can get rid of clothes that don’t fit, they can get rid of any old toys or school books they may have and start fresh.

Imagine if you just moved into a new house and you had a room and some furniture, how would you like your room to be now?

That gets the imagination flowing.

They get creative.

And they get cleaning!

I’ve also found that if you’re sitting there with a bag for the charity bin, a bag for the recycling and a bag for the rubbish that helps.

When you’re supporting their creativity and chatting with them as they pick up one item after the next, you are creating a deeper relationship and a beautiful memory.

Depending on the personality of the child this process can take a couple of hours or a couple of days.

My youngest niece (14) took a couple of hours and it was relatively pain free.

My nephew (11) started yesterday and it looks worse than when he started and will probably continue like that for the week and that’s ok.

My eldest niece (17) hasn’t even started… resistence!

Gotta love it 😉

If you’re saying to yourself… “Well, this will never happen with my child!” You are doing yourself and your child a disservice.

It may be a slightly different process, but I’m sure that you can work it out.

What if you could let go of all the projections you have about what your child will or will not do and see what happens?

What I am realising with these kids is that the more I stay open to different possibilities the easier it is for them to do what I would like to be done.

I trust that they will grow and develop into loving, caring beings…

Actually scrap that!

I trust that they are loving, caring beings and they are being the best version of themselves no matter how they show up.

Are you at loggerheads with someone in your family?

It’s ok.

It happens to everyone and now that you have recognised it you can remove yourself from the emotions of it.

Breathe.

Disentangle.

Align with Divine Love.

Allow it to integrate now.

And breathe…

Give them the space to become open to new possibilities and you never know what may happen… Click To Tweet

If you have teenagers and need a little outside perspective, book your appointment now. You’d be surprised just how much the dynamic can change with an energetic adjustment.

Loving you… Loving life…

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What To Do When Life Doesn’t Flow

At the moment, I don’t think I’m in flow.

And yet I actually am.

The reason why I don’t think I’m in flow is because I’m not doing what I think I should be doing!

And the reason why I actually am in flow is because I’m doing what I need to be doing.

Let me give you some background on what I’m talking about…

I’m at my sister’s place, staying here for 2 weeks looking after her 3 gorgeous kids while she is having a holiday in London.

Her house feels different from mine.

There is not really a space for me where my work flows (or how I think it should flow).

It’s just different.

It’s uncomfortable.

It’s not how I would have liked it to be.

Yet it is perfect.

My sister’s space and environment is gifting me with so many insights into how I work, communicate and play.

And how all of these things come in loads of different packages.

Every Wednesday, when I’m at home, I get a hit of inspiration of what I would like to write about.

I recognise the feeling, the understanding and the knowing that it will simply flow onto the computer.

Yesterday, at my sister’s place, I got nothing!

I just couldn’t write because I wasn’t recognising how I thought inspiration should feel!

Today, I got nothing…

And yet I’m writing while I wait for our dad to arrive.

The way I got around my lack of inspiration or what I thought was lack, was to write about it.

Get it out!

Shout it out!

I’m totally uninspired!

And yet….

I’m not 🙂

So how does this relate to you and your life?

Well, many times there are areas in our life where we feel uninspired, flat, without flow… and it’s a struggle.

But what if we’re simply misreading the information we’re being given?

What if what we thought inspiration was, simply doesn’t show up the same way in this particular area?

What if we need to look at the lack of flow from a different perspective?

What if we could let go of our idea of what flow and inspiration are and are not? Click To Tweet

Could we?

Would we?

When?

We are multi perceptive beings, it would be crazy to think that we could perceive inspiration in one particular form.

And that we could respond to inspiration in one particular way.

What if we could let go of how we think all of this should be?

And everything that is not it, attached to it and align it with Divine Love?

And breathe…

What if you could take a look at your life?

Relationships

Finances

Career

Health

Spirituality

Personal Growth

Family…

And which area is not flowing at the moment?

Yet… what if it was, but you simply were looking for a different kind of knowing?

What if you didn’t realise that it was in flow?

Even if it really doesn’t look like it!

Even if you think that area is going backwards or is upside down or a complete mess.

Could you be open to that sort of flow?

Could you take a breathe and trust that even though you aren’t able to connect with that area and how it is flowing, it is actually in flow?

What if by being in allowance of flow showing up in many different forms, that you end up realising that it was always in flow to begin with?

Can you see how it works?

It’s like magic!

When you are in allowance of it being rather than trying to change it or manipulate it into something that it is not, it will open up into something that is beyond your expectations…

Just like this post.

Oh… and the 2 others I wrote after it 😉

Loving you… Loving life…

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My Nephew Is A Dreamer

I love my nephew.

He is an amazing kid.

Polite, intelligent and he has a kind heart.

And he is soooooooo slow when you want him to do anything!

For those of you who don’t know, I’m new to this acting parenting thing.

My sister is away in London for 2 weeks and I’m looking after my 2 nieces and nephew while she is away.

And I’ve got to say that I have a newfound respect for parents.

My kids are teenagers and are very self sufficient having grown up with mostly just Mum, they’ve learned how to cook, wash clothes and pretty much organise themselves.

However, I know I’m challenging them to become even more… just as they are me.

The gift my nephew is giving me is being in the present moment with him.

 

You know, I don’t get to see them very often and he’ll be a grown up in a few years and I’ll probably see him even less.

So, last night we were doing the dishes.

The kids hate doing the dishes, however, they have a roster and I’m there drying and chatting with them so it’s more fun for the both of us.

When I do the dishes, they are done quickly and efficiently.

When my nephew does the dishes they are done slowly because he is of in another world.

And then when you chat with him as well, it turns into a marathon as he can’t chat and clean dishes at the same time.

As we were chatting and washing and stopping and washing and chatting some more, I could feel my frustration levels rising.

He simply wasn’t doing it fast enough and without taking over, which wouldn’t be great for his development.

I could do nothing.

Nothing!

That’s when I realised that my beautiful nephew was giving me a gift.

The gift of being present.

The gift of getting to know him.

The gift of connecting with him.

The gift of being present.

A wonderful gift.

As I felt the frustration, I made a conscious choice that it really didn’t matter what else we were missing out on, being present with him was the most important thing I could be doing with my life at this moment.

I had to remind myself a few times because the frustration kept coming at me.

And instead of shoving it down and dismissing it, I was amused by it because as I was being present with my nephew, the frustration was clearing.

I hear this often from clients that their partners or kids don’t do things the way that they would like them to be done.

And they are missing the gift that they are to give and to be given.

The gift to give is to trust that the other person will work it out. Click To Tweet

They will get there on their timeframe not yours.

To give someone the space to learn and to work things out themselves is allowing both you and them to grow into the best version of them.

They develop their problem solving skills and increase their sense of achievement, which will allow them to eventually contribute more to the lives of others.

I understand that I am not an expert in parenting within 2 weeks, however, I have insights into human behaviours that allow others to see the forest from the trees.

So when you are stuck in that forest and you would like others to behave in a way that is different from what is showing up, there are 2 things you can do…

  1. Stop the activity completely and do something different
  2. Allow the activity to continue until complete, supporting them every step of the way.

The choice is yours.

Remember, if you need some extra assistance with your kids, book your appointment today.

Loving you… Loving life…

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