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Stop Believing Your Feelings

One thing I have noticed about feelings is that they can change in an instant.

We have created a whole belief system around our feelings…

Good feelings

Bad feelings

Indifferent feelings all mean something to us.

Good – Great, let’s have a wonderful day doing things that are fun and we’re going to enjoy.

Bad – Let’s stay in bed all day with our head under the covers

Indifferent – Well… that could go either way, but generally, it’s a bit of a meh feeling that none of us really want to participate in.

We’re all searching for those good feelings to be motivated and happy and excited. Whereas, we can be all of those things before we feel the feelings.

Feelings are indicators of what is going on around us, not necessarily what is going on within us. Which is why, when you realise that feelings don’t mean much, you can “feel the fear and do it anyway” courtesy of Louise Hay.

How are you feeling right now?

Happy, sad, depressed, anxious, joyous or something else? That’s wonderful! Your antennae to pick up what is going on outside of you is working.

Now think back over the past week, month and year and give me a guestimate of how many feelings you have felt? A mega lot I’m guessing. And how did these feelings effect your life? Were these feelings true for you or were they something that was there until the next feeling came along?

Most of the time our lives are run by our thoughts or feelings and until we realise that they are simply there to let us know what’s going on with our external reality and not our own inner world, we can be sabotaged by them every moment of every day.

The majority of the time the feelings are not a premonition for what is going to happen throughout your day. Most of the time, the feelings will create your day, so you have the ability to change that and let go of the control these feelings have over us.

I will concede that there are some feelings that are a premonition, but from my experience and those that I have worked with who have accurate premonitions, they are very different from your run of the mill feelings that we know so well.

And when we let go of the idea that every feeling has the ability to foretell the future, you will find that your psychic ability in whichever form it may be, will become stronger.

Let me ask you some questions to alleviate the weight of the feelings that hinder you and your higher expression will start to shine through…

Is it time for you to let go of the importance we place on our feelings and go about our day?

Is it time for you to let go of the meaning we give our feelings?

Is it time for you to realise that feelings come and go and they have very little to do with our life and how we would like to live it.

This morning I woke up with a debilitating anxiety attack.

I have learned that an attack like this has no bearing on what is going on in my life and that there is someone in my frequency who is having difficulties with their life. Generally, it will be a client that will ring me in the next couple of days with an issue and the feeling will go away.

If I took this anxiety to mean something in my life, I wouldn’t be able to get out of bed and I certainly wouldn’t be able to do any of the work I have planned for the day.

The first thing that I do, is to be gentle yet tough with myself.

I feel the anxiety, no doubt. It is a physical attack on my system… so I breathe.

I take the time to allow the love from the universe to infuse my body and my being while I breathe.

I give gratitude to my body and my being while I breathe and I trust that this feeling will pass.

I am also propped up in bed writing this post so that I can share the process with anyone else who has ever suffered from anxiety while I breathe.

Intellectually, I know that I am safe and there is no need to be anxious, so I breathe.

If you find that you suffer from the feeling trap, there are a couple of steps that you can take that will allow you to let it go.

  1. Say to the feeling, “Thank you for the heads up, but you can return to whomever you belong.”
  2. Write about it. Getting it down on paper (or on your computer) is very cathartic.
  3. Breathe… 4 counts in, hold for 4 counts and 4 counts out.
  4. Know that you are not your feelings and that they do not have to control what you do in your life.

You can live your life without giving these feelings that aren’t your’s any thought or meaning. You don’t need to delve into the “why!” to resolve them as they are giving you the gift of coming back to present when you breathe through them.

So how do you feel today?

Are you going to let those feelings that aren’t even yours control your life or are you going to live the life of your highest expression?

I choose the latter and I hope you will too.

If you need any extra help with untangling from these feelings that can knock you around, I have a couple of choices for you – you can join us in the Divine Love Club and receive remote healings or have a private consultation with me. Either way, I am here to support you.

Loving you… Loving life…

PS. By the time I finished writing this post, I had an understanding of where the anxiety was coming from and it stopped affecting me. Pretty cool!

3 Ways To Attract Your Life Partner

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if Ms or Mr Right showed up out of the blue?

Well, it is possible, and usually happens when you stop looking. Yet how do you get to the point where you stop looking? How do you get to that feeling where you have completely given up and let go?

Sometimes it can be trickier than you expect it to be and with these 3 ways, you can let go of the search for your partner and still have the feeling that you are “doing” something for them to show up in your life.

 

 

3 ways to attract love into your life are:

  1. Universe, show me love
  2. Pull energy
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

After about 3 months (on and off) using these 3 steps, Scott magically appeared in my life.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

And of course, if you need any extra help, you can always connect with me and we can work through any blockages you may have together.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Steps To Healing Relationships

The hurt, the anger, the pain of a damaged relationship can affect every aspect of your life.

Are you ready to let it go and move on? This doesn’t mean that you condone their behaviour, it simply means that you can let go of all the emotions that are damaging your life.

By healing your side of the relationship you are able to bring more joy, happiness and love into your life. You’ll be able to develop more loving relationships and complete the cycle that is caused by a lack of forgiveness.

Listen as I explain in more depth the 3 steps that will allow you to forgive and heal relationships.

 

 

The 3 steps are:

  1. Flower meditation
  2. Everywhere I’ve been there, everywhere I’ve done that
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

These simple yet very effective tips will allow you to be free of the pain you can carry around from your past and present relationships, so you can enjoy your life even more.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Blame Me For Everything

What if you had someone to blame for everything that has ever happened in your life?

All the bad stuff that you think is ruining your life.

All the stuff that if it wasn’t happening, your life would be fantastic!

Well, you do… Me.

Yep. Blame me.

Blame me for the bad stuff, the ugly stuff, the hurtful stuff, the stuff that is uncomfortable.

Blame me.

Your child falls over… Rosemary’s fault.

You’re in financial ruin… Rosemary’s fault.

Your partner is in a mood… yep… Rosemary’s fault.

You can do it!

In fact, the more you blame me, the better!

You can even blame me for the good stuff, although most of you won’t do that because you think that the good stuff is worth holding on. Yet, the good, the bad, the indifferent is all made up of the same stuff (energy) and can all be thrown at my feet because it feels great!

Bring it on baby!!!!

So, now that you think I’m mildly crazy for taking the blame for everything in your life, that other person’s life, in fact, for everyone’s life, what is this all about?

When many people feel they are being blamed for something, especially if it is unjustly so, there is a resistance that can keep you stuck. It can hold the energy in place for years and have an affect on future decisions that will stop you from creating a life of fun and joy.

I remember when I was a child I would get the blame for things that I hadn’t done and it felt horrible. Why was I being punished for something I had nothing to do with?

Victim, victim, victim!

Now as an adult, I realise that the issue of blame had nothing to do with me and everything to do with them, so I’m happy to allow the energy to flow through me because that is all blame is… energy.

When I wasn’t able to receive the energy of blame, I became a right fighter. I would fight for my cause to the death. And that’s exactly what happened… I killed many relationships because I was fighting for what I believed was right.

I’m not saying for you to be a doormat and take abuse from others, simply allow the energy to flow through you easily and gently because blame rarely has anything to do with you and everything to do with the other person.

Of course, if it is an issue that you can remedy, by all means, help out. Do what you can to rectify the situation and give the other person some ease in their life.

Are you ready to let blame become a thing of the past in your relationships?

Are you willing to allow the energy of blame (and anything else) to flow through you like a gentle breeze?

Are you willing to drop your barriers, expand the love your have within your heart and be open to the energy being thrown at you?

Are you willing to feel blame as a gentle giggle?

Are you willing to realise that blame really doesn’t matter and that looking at the hurt behind the blame is more important than the blame itself?

When you are able to allow the blame to flow through you, you will find that blame rarely comes up in your world. People stop blaming you, you stop blaming people and things. You stop being a victim in your own world and that’s a really spacious place to be.

Right, wrong, good or bad, it really doesn’t matter because it is all the same energy, simply different sides of the same coin which we have judged and allowed it to have power over us.

Are you ready to take your power back?

Are you ready to be responsible for your own life?

Are you ready to blame me for EVERYTHING?

Are you ready and willing to untangle from the energy of blame, so it no longer exists in your reality?

By the way, it’s all my fault!

If you need a little help with this concept, let me know and we’ll work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

Worst Case Scenario

I’ve always been a little bit worried about how people who aren’t open to what I do would judge me.

Have you ever been concerned about other’s opinions of you?

Friends, family, acquaintances…

This would generally come up if you have some form of rejection as a core issue for you in your morphic field.

So I was at Rikka Zimmerman’s Life Transformed workshop in Los Angeles the other day (which was fabulous by the way) and I realised just how intrinsic rejection was in my field.

I knew that there was something there, yet I couldn’t put my finger on it.

This happens a lot and I see it with clients.

Core issues can be very difficult to see from your own perspective. Click To Tweet

They put themselves into areas of their life so that it will show up over and over again until they see it and allow it to be released and for many of us, we won’t know what it is until someone points it out to us and we’re ready to receive that information.

So this happened to me in the course and then later that night the people who I didn’t really want to know what I did for a living found my videos online.

And guess what happened?

I didn’t die.

I didn’t cry.

I didn’t go into the fetal position and hope that the world would open up and swallow me.

On the contrary.

I wished that I had more online for them to see.

I wished that I had opened up and allowed all my skills to assist those who need them.

I wished that I had contributed more to help others.

Yet there is no way that I could have done or been anything different at the time before the rejection was cleared out of my system.

I was simply being me.

To take a look at your core issue, take a look at some worst case scenarios that you wouldn’t want to happen in your life.

It could be that your relationship breaks down.

It could be that you lose all your money.

It could be that your personal choice gets taken away.

And you’ll notice that you keep choosing partners or situations where you’re the one that creates situations where this happens.

For example, in between being a flight attendant and a counsellor, I worked in sales… talk about rejection!

I would start off being the highest seller and then magically couldn’t make a sale to save myself.

I created the rejection.

Another example was that before meeting my gorgeous husband, I would pick men who I would think were rejecting me, but I was actually pushing them away.

Pretty cool, huh?

Now, your issue may have nothing to do with rejection and these examples may not resonate with you, yet there will be a pattern that you have created in your life that is trying to tell you something about your deliciously juicy core issue.

And this issue will have a direct effect on EVERY ASPECT OF YOUR LIFE!

So take the time and write down what sort of jobs do you gravitate to, what sort of partners do you bring into your life and how do you feel about your life in general.

And then of course, ask the magical question…

“Show me and allow me to clear the core issue that affects every aspect of my life?”

And trust that it will eventually appear and be released easily and effortlessly.

If you need some extra help with this, please know that I’m available for private consultations to be that outsider who is able to see what is difficult for most of us to see within ourselves.

Loving you… Loving life…

Taking Inspired Action

I really have not been a fan of this saying.

Mainly because I’ve been wanting to do things in my business, yet there has been no inspiration to do them.

It has simply been… “This is what I should do for my clients”.

And let me tell you, it’s been a struggle.

So of course I started to ask some questions, started connecting in with my higher self and guess what?

Inspiration!!!!!

Clients have been asking for me to do this for years.

And I’m finally getting around to organising it.

A 3 day retreat in Bali!

Woohoo!!!

It is an interesting process, because I’ve never said never to doing a retreat, but I simply never saw myself doing it.

Until I woke up the other day and BAM!

I knew I had to get it organised… and now.

Talk about Universal flow!

So now I have 2 inspired projects on the go My Partner Is Being An Ass (Scott came up with the name) and the Divine Love Intensive.

Both will be worthwhile to me and women with relationship issues, however, I need to take action.

Have you ever been in a situation where you think you should do something and it simply doesn’t flow?

Those are the things I recommend (if it’s not life threatening) to let go and do the things you’re inspired to do.

When inspiration hits, action flows more easily.

You still need to keep your eye on the outcome, yet the action steps fall into place and you create a lot faster than you would ordinarily do by forcing yourself to do things.

Let me give you a tip…

When inspiration hits, you’ll come up with a multitude of reasons not to take action.

It won’t work.

What if I end up losing money?

What if I don’t have anything of value to give?

And if we’re talking about inspired action in relationships…

What if they don’t… (fill in the blank)?

What if?

What if?

What if?

Forget about all the what if down questions.

Start asking the what if up questions…

What if it does work out?

What if life is better because of it?

What if… wow!

Forget about all the niggles and connect in with that part of you that is inspiring you.

I’m not suggesting you sit around waiting for inspiration.

That would be silly.

Asking questions about your day would be a good place to start.

What will inspire me today?

What action is required today to complete this task?

What can I be and do to create something beyond my imagination?

What if I had more joy and love in my life than I could ever imagine?

When you’re finished (as if you ever finish) with your questions let them go and get on with your day.

And if you really want some inspiration, ask!

Before you go to sleep at night, ask…

What am I going to be inspired by when I wake up?

And let your other than conscious mind come up with the answer when you’re asleep.

You may want to keep a notepad and pen by your bed because the answers are what will wake you up in the middle of the night.

If that happens, write them down and trust that if it is for your highest good, you will remember them and take action on them when the time is right.

Just as I am trusting that 10 people will be coming to the Divine Love Intensive in Bali – October 2016…

If it is for the highest good of all.

So are you ready for some inspiration to come your way?

And are you ready to take inspired action?

And are you ready to create a new, inspired life each and every day? Click To Tweet

I am.

And you could too.

I’ll have more information about both courses coming up as they come together, but if you’re curious now and would like me to contact you when they are ready to go, click here and you’ll be in the priority group.

In the meantime, book your consultation with me today for some one to one time.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Is Sex Important In Intimate Relationships

I have been asked many times from clients…

Is sex important in intimate relationships?

And in a nutshell my answer is yes and no.

I know… I know… but really there is never a clear cut answer when it comes to relationships and especially when it comes to sex.

So let me explain…

If a couple are sexually compatible the answer is no (most of the time). And by compatible I mean either they both want it the same amount or they both don’t want it the same amount. The amount of times they make love with each other is a non-issue if they both are satisfied.

However, if the lack of sexual intimacy is due to an imbalance of hormones, repressed sexual issues or issues in the relationship in general then the lack of love making and connection may need to be something you might like to look into.

When clients ask me about sex and their relationship it’s generally when one or both of them are dissatisfied in some way.

It could be due to lack of sex – one of the couple is disinterested or too much sex and one of the couple wants it all the time. Or they simple don’t fit as a couple.

When you’re dealing with bodies, sometimes what they feel doesn’t match with what you would like them to feel and that’s where the real disconnect can occur.

If you’re the one that is dissatisfied with your sexual relationships then it’s up to you to take a look at where that dissatisfaction comes from. Why have you chosen this particular person to be in relationship with and what is it that they are bringing up for you to let go of?

Here’s what I say to the ones that don’t want to have sex very often…

  1. Go and get your hormones checked out
  2. What is that feeling that stops you from enjoying spending time with your partner’s body? When was the earliest time you felt it and who does it remind you of?
  3. Are you willing to look at the aspects of what is stopping you from enjoying sex with your partner to create a different dynamic in your relationship around sexual experiences?

And for the partner who would like to make love more often with their partner…

  1. Make sure your hormones are balanced
  2. What does sex mean to you?
  3. How would you gift to body sexually if you didn’t have a partner?

To both of the people I would then say…

  1. Are you willing to love that part of you that is reflected in your partner?
  2. Are you willing to look at any blockages to giving and receiving?
  3. After having done all of the work, what would your ideal sexual relationship be? And are you willing to be that for you without relying on another to give you those feelings?

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When your body can open yourself up to giving and receiving both sexually and in other ways in your life, then you aren’t reliant on others to give it to you through sex and once you let go of the neediness your sexual relationship with your self and others start to shift in a way that you could never imagine.

So, if you’re in a situation where there is imbalance in your love life, book a consultation with me and we can muscle test you to help you balance your hormones and bring sexual energy into balance.

Loving you… Loving life…

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The Art Of Giving A Gift

Did you know that there is an art to giving a gift?

Neither did I until a couple of years ago, and yet there seems to be a socially accepted way to give and receive.

You give your gift and you expect a thank you or an acknowledgement in return.

Easy!

Yet not so easy…

For one thing what if the recipient doesn’t like your gift? Do they still have to say thank you for something they are most probably going to discard in some way?

And if they don’t say thank you, how do you feel about giving to them? Not great.

So what is the true art of giving?

It is giving without conditions… Gifting!

When you gift to someone, you bypass the dynamics of giving and receiving… the expectation that if you give to someone you will receive something in return.

It allows you to give without expectations… give simply for the sake of giving.

When you gift to someone, you allow them to have the energetic space to do with your gift whatever they choose.

They can say thank you if they wish, and if they don’t wish to acknowledge your gift, they don’t have to.

Some may say it is rude not to be thankful for a gift, yet thanks seems to be an expectation not true thankfulness.

Which would you prefer?

Gifting is also much more fun, in my opinion as it gives you and the recipient the freedom to give and receive without any conditions.

True unconditional giving is ironically one of the easiest ways to bring happiness into your life. Click To Tweet

So many of us think of a gift as what it will give us in return rather than giving without any concern for ourselves.

Giving and receiving is one of the core reasons for burnout, that I will write about at later date.

So how do you gift rather than give?

  • When shopping for a gift for another, imagine you will not receive thanks for this gift. No acknowledgement at all. How do you feel?
  • When giving your gift, let go of expectations of them liking the gift and you receiving thanks for your gift. How do you feel about that?
  • Give simply for the sake of giving… let go of your expectations of how the gift should be used (especially if it is money) and your expectations of thanks.

When you think about the dogma of giving and receiving take a look at nature. Are there any expectations of receiving a thank you when a bird pollinates a plant? I don’t think so. There is a co-existence and the energy flows from one to another gifting and receiving.

Many of us think that we are giving unconditionally, yet even if we have a little inkling that says, “I hope they like my gift” there is still an energetic attachment to giving conditionally that you may wish to let go of.

Some people find this quite easy to do, yet others… especially if gift giving is one of your love languages, you may have a little trouble not receiving from your act of love.

Either way, that’s ok… 

What if it was time to give a gift to you? Book a consultation with me today and transform your life.

Loving you… Loving life…

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When It’s Time To Sparkle

Knowing when it’s time to sparkle is very important as we go about our busy lives.

So… yesterday I bought a pair of sparkly slippers!

I’m notsparkles really known for my sparkling clothes as I’m very practical with what I buy, however, as I was walking past the shop I saw them and thought “Wouldn’t it be fun!”

And I am now wearing them as I write this for you.

What’s the big deal about sparkles?

I see so many people who’s energy is bogged down with responsibility and stress and trauma and realise that all of that heaviness could be cleared in an instant of frivolity.

Yes the issues would still be in your life, yet looking at them through a different perspective – the sparkle filter – can shift that which keeps you stuck and new awareness around the issue can shine through.

Many would read this and think that it’s the same as positive thinking, yet it goes deeper than just turning the coin that is positive/negative.

When you look at something that gives you the feeling of fun, joy and frivolity and then keep that feeling when you look back at your issues, those issues don’t have the same energetic impact on you.

They simply don’t seem as important as you once thought and you can solve them or dissolve them as required.

Here are the steps for you to transfer a little sparkle into your life

  1. Go and get something that you need, but get the ones that sparkle (I actually needed some slippers)
  2. Make sure that they make you feel FANTASTIC! Even if they look silly
  3. Wear them as a reminder that you feel fantastic
  4. When other issues in your life come up, remember what it was like to wear your sparkles
  5. Feel that feeling when you deal with the issues and just be aware when the giggles start bubbling up

Life is about fun, joy and love! Click To Tweet

And the more you connect with that feeling within you the more the daily grind will be light in its energy.

Are you ready for a little sparkle in your life?

Could you be?

Would you be?

When?

If you’re feeling flat and could use a little joy in your life, but simply don’t have the energy to open up to it, click here and book an appointment with me today.

It will make a huge difference in your life.

Loving you… Loving life…

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