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Protect Yourself From Hurt

Life hurts so much I just can’t stand it!

How to protect yourself from being hurt again is a common theme.

We come into the world open to all the possibilities that are offered, yet we learn very quickly that it is very easy for our openness to be battered by people who have been hurt themselves.

It’s tough when you are hurt by another, especially if this other is a loved one or someone you have looked up to in the past.

What I have found with clients is that before someone is able to hurt you, you need to give them the ability to do so. You hand over your power, you place expectations on the other person and you let go of your knowing.

This is not about blaming you for the other person’s behaviour. It is simply giving you the awareness that you don’t have to be hurt by another ever again.

Handing over your power is one of the easiest ways to get hurt.

By this I mean, giving them your trust, your knowing and allowing them to be in charge of your life. You may not be doing this on a conscious level, but if you have any resistance to having someone take control of aspects of your life, you are also handing them your power because what you resist persists and grows stronger.

And breathe…

Placing expectations on the other person – who you think they are, rather than who they are showing you they are is a great way to be hurt when you finally see them for who they are. Also placing expectations on the experience with the other person can cause difficulties when the interaction ends and the dreams are shattered, leaving you wondering what happened? Where did it all go wrong?

Letting go of your knowing can also land you in a world of hurt. Every single client I have asked if they knew their partner would cheat on them before it happened, when connecting in with their knowing, said yes. They knew! We know when we are going to be hurt. We are given signs, but because of what we have seen in our parent’s relationships, the television and in social media we believe on some level that it is ok for us to have this experience.

On a soul level, yes it is perfectly ok for us to have this experience, yet what if by using the tools below we can bypass it and have our experience in another, kinder form?

How do we learn without being hurt by the experiences we choose to have?

  1. Let go of the meaning we have given the experience. Getting hurt means so much to us. It is betrayal, disrespect, blame and so much more. What if we didn’t attach so much meaning to being hurt and see it for what it is. It’s a couple of people playing out a pattern that has been running for many, many lifetimes and you’ve all played different roles and now it’s time to complete the pattern so that you don’t have to play it over again with other people in other times or dimensions. Are you willing to let that pattern resolve itself?
  2. Return everything you have ever learned about life and relationships to whomever you bought it. Whether it is from your parents, tv or somewhere else, they can have it back and you can now create something that flows from love.
  3. Drop your energetic barriers. We are so caught up in protecting ourselves from the nasties that we don’t realise that when our barriers go up we are resisting what is hurting us and are holding the hurt in place. Wouldn’t it be easier to drop the barriers and let go of the resistance, the meaning and acknowledge that it happened and it no longer has any control over you?
  4. Let go of your expectations…. COMPLETELY! No one finds it easy to live up to another’s expectations, so why would you place this on a person you love? Right here, right now is where you are. You’re reading this post. You’re deciding whether you agree with what I’m writing or not and you are present. And breathe… To let go of needing to protect yourself, this is the best place to live. In the present.
  5. Acknowledge your knowing. If you ask yourself if this person or situation is in your highest expression of your life, you’ll get a response. Depending on the way you receive information, feeling, thoughts, visions, hearing or knowing, you’ll receive the answer to the question. You can ask whether it is a pattern repeating itself and ask your higher self to resolve the pattern on your behalf. You can ask if you will hurt the other person. You can ask questions to get a full picture of what is going to happen in this situation and then make a conscious choice whether to go ahead or not. It doesn’t matter which choice you make because spiritually, there are no wrong choices. It’s up to you.

So, how do you feel about being hurt now?

The pain and sadness may linger for a while, yet if you use these 5 insights you’ll find that these feelings will lift sooner than you think and if you’re a quick learner (I wasn’t, so no judgement here), you’ll find that you may never have to experience this again… or at least in a lesser form.

If you feel that you need some extra help trusting yourself and dropping your barriers, please contact me for a private consultation or join the monthly free distant healing sessions and let me do all the work for you.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Ways To Attract Your Life Partner

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if Ms or Mr Right showed up out of the blue?

Well, it is possible, and usually happens when you stop looking. Yet how do you get to the point where you stop looking? How do you get to that feeling where you have completely given up and let go?

Sometimes it can be trickier than you expect it to be and with these 3 ways, you can let go of the search for your partner and still have the feeling that you are “doing” something for them to show up in your life.

 

 

3 ways to attract love into your life are:

  1. Universe, show me love
  2. Pull energy
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

After about 3 months (on and off) using these 3 steps, Scott magically appeared in my life.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

And of course, if you need any extra help, you can always connect with me and we can work through any blockages you may have together.

Loving you… Loving life…

What Are You Willing To Give Up

Many of us struggle to let go of ideas, beliefs and physical things because we are afraid of what we might lose.

We won’t give something up because we may need it in the future…

Somewhere..

Sometime…

We don’t actually know if we will need it or use it, but JUST IN CASE, we’re going to hold onto it for dear life!

And we do this because we don’t believe that in that far off moment we will be supported by our life and the Universe.

We believe that if we give something up, that’s it. We are doomed to be rudderless forever!

A little dramatic I know, yet this is what I see on a regular basis.

Even though we preach abundance, we still believe in scarcity because we are not willing to give up something, simply because we don’t believe that we will be supported and given other opportunities to create something beyond our current thinking for this mythical future event.

I’ll simplify this a little with something physical and then I’ll move onto something a little bigger.

My Father in Law (who has transitioned, yet is still very much a part of our lives), collected boxes. I only knew him physically for a short period of time, yet when it was time to clean out his garage, one of the most used sentences was…

“Good box that!”

He was a collector of boxes. Small ones, big ones, ones that may be used for something (who knows what) in the future. As if when this future time came, he wouldn’t be able to go and get a box that would suit the contents then, when that moment in the future became the moment of now.

My Step Dad has this affliction although he has had to cut it down due to lack of storage space in his new home and my husband has it too.

It’s a little bit of fun and doesn’t hurt anyone, yet how does it relate to your thoughts and beliefs about an abundant and supportive universe?

When we’re not willing to give up the little things in life, it is much harder to give up the bigger ones and they are the things that hold us back the most.

Those things that we hold on so dearly are stopping us from finding and receiving love, from creating a successful business, developing lasting friendships and being a conduit of love.

When we are willing to give up everything in life, our thoughts, our feelings, our emotions and our physical possessions we are then given the space to be open to amazing opportunities. As the saying goes, “One door closes and another one opens.” This is true for whatever you are willing to give up.

I played with a process the other day and maybe you can too.

Look around your house… what are you willing to give up?

Your clothes?

Your bed?

Your computer?

Your phone?

Your food?

Your whole house?

Remember, you don’t actually have to give these things away if they are serving you in this moment and they enhance your life. The process is for you to energetically give these things up.

And then we can move on to emotions…

What are you willing to give up?

Sadness?

Depression?

Anxiety?

Hopelessness?

Anger?

Happiness?

Joy?

Love?

Are you willing to give up the good with the bad?

Good and bad are both sides of the same coin, so if you’re not willing to give up one energy, you’ll still have it lingering in the background because you’re attached to the other side of the coin.

Are you willing to give it up and see what is beyond your beliefs?

Play with the process and see how much clearer you become. You may find that your world opens up to so many possibilities that simply weren’t there for you before because you were holding onto the scarcity of not trusting that there is always more.

Are you willing to give up your friends, family, children, job, money, career, etc, etc?

What if you were?

Would you?

Could you?

When?

Let me know what happens when you do this process and if you have a little trouble letting go, let me know and we can work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

How To Take Inspired Action

I’ve heard tell, that to be a success in this life you need to take action.

Most of the people I have heard this from are selling a product or service.

Take action now or you will miss out, you’ll regret it or you’ll never find this product again! What a load of rubbish!

You can take action as much in your life as you wish. You can be a doing rather than a being if you truly desire. You can run yourself into the ground with busyness and end up broke, sick and unhappy – and that may not be a bad thing for you. It may even be your journey.

However, a lot of the time when you live your life like you feel you’re going to miss out if you take action, it will take you off your path and away from your life’s desire, which is a shame.

So, how do you get things done?

You take inspired action.

The funny thing with inspiration is that it doesn’t always feel like you’re going in the “right” direction or it’s even very inspiring.

Sometimes it’s a niggle to do something… anything… and you may not know what that “thing” is. You may feel the desire to get outside, get away from the computer, yet you’re not quite sure where to go! This morning I felt the need to write a blog post, yet I didn’t know what I was going to write about, I simply had an inkling to write. And so I am writing…

There is a lot going on with our lives that we aren’t aware of. We have a path, to guide us and strength that if we listen to the whispers we will be able to follow. Yet if we decide what we are going to do without checking in to the other side of us, we could find after years of taking action, that we really didn’t want to go where we were heading.

There needs to be trust, surrender and communication with our guides and our higher self which then helps you to connect with those whispers of inspiration.

You can communicate with your higher self in many ways. This is what I say…

“I would like to complete (fill in the blank) today and also complete (fill in the blank) this week. Would you like to do this with me? I will leave how or when we do it up to you and for the highest expression of my life.”

And then go about my day. You can ask to go somewhere, do something or complete something and the time frame is up to you. You can set a specific date or simply say, week, month or year.

One of the most important parts of that conversation is the invitation for my higher self to do it with me. It’s always nice to be asked, rather than told that you’re going to do something, isn’t it?

I even tend to ramble a bit, unless there is something really important that I would like to have done and then I will write it down. I leave the details up to my higher self because it’s a lot easier.

If you do this process, you may find that you don’t get everything done. You may even find that you do things that you didn’t think you were going to do. You may find that in the coming weeks, months or years that you had the order wrong and you needed to get B done before A.

So, what is it that you would like to get done?

Would you like a loving relationship?

Would you like a more fulfilling job?

Would you like to complete your tax return?

Would you like to clean your house?

Or something else?

It’s time for you to have a chat to your higher self and tell it your intentions for your life and if it will assist to express your life fully, then you will start to be pulled in ways that you may never have thought.

Please don’t get stressed out when it doesn’t happen in the order that you think it should. You really don’t have a clue about what is best for you in this regard. (And I mean that in the nicest possible way… we really don’t).

For example, at the beginning of the week, I needed to complete the first page of the HappyInConsiousness website, record a 3 Divine Love Club recordings and 5 subliminal audios for DLC members and I thought that this would be the order it “should be done”.

I have completed the 3 DLC recordings. They were done quickly and easily and I had been putting them off for 2 months! Last night, I dreamed what the HIC site copy would be… so that will be easy to complete today. Yet if I had done it when I had planned (before the DLC recordings) it would have been a struggle.

In passing, I noticed that I needed to write some more content for my website and thought I may do it on Friday when my mum and I spend the day working together, yet because my higher-self knows that I was going to get an insight into the copy for Happy In Consciousness, I had an urge to write the post in between dropping Scott off at the train station and going to Mum’s.

And so it is done.

I have no idea when I will be doing the subliminal audios and the deadline is next week. Although I do know that I will be doing it at the perfect time for them and me and the members of the Divine Love Club. I’m leaving it up to the part of me that knows and I don’t need to stress about it at all.

If you’re someone who needs to have all their ducks in a row and work to deadlines, simply ask your higher self to complete the work with you. You’ll find that you’ll get the work done more easily and quickly. However, if you have the flexibility to try this process out, you may find that you’ll start opening to other opportunities that you may not have even considered!

Let me know how you go and if you are struggling to find your life’s desire, contact me and we can work it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Steps To Healing Relationships

The hurt, the anger, the pain of a damaged relationship can affect every aspect of your life.

Are you ready to let it go and move on? This doesn’t mean that you condone their behaviour, it simply means that you can let go of all the emotions that are damaging your life.

By healing your side of the relationship you are able to bring more joy, happiness and love into your life. You’ll be able to develop more loving relationships and complete the cycle that is caused by a lack of forgiveness.

Listen as I explain in more depth the 3 steps that will allow you to forgive and heal relationships.

 

 

The 3 steps are:

  1. Flower meditation
  2. Everywhere I’ve been there, everywhere I’ve done that
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

These simple yet very effective tips will allow you to be free of the pain you can carry around from your past and present relationships, so you can enjoy your life even more.

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

Loving you… Loving life…

Treat Others The Way They Would Like To Be Treated

There is a golden rule: Do unto other as you would want them to do unto you.

Yet as I was listening to Jane Elliott of the blue eyes/brown eyes experiment, she said something that totally resonated with me.

Treat others the way they would like to be treated.

Have a think about it for a moment… wouldn’t you like other people to treat you with the way YOU would like to be treated? Not the way they think you should be treated or even the way they would want to be treated… the way you would like to be treated.

Although we are all one in our energy and our beings, we are still individuals with different desires and requirements on how to live. We all have our little idiosyncrasies that make us unique and allow us to contribute our brand of something special to humanity. And this means that we all would like to be treated in a certain way. We would like to be treated how we would like to be treated!

Search engines and internet marketers understand this as they retarget their ads to what the consumer is looking for, not what they think we should buy. Sometimes they get it wrong, yet most of the time because of the complex algorithms finding out about our likes and dislikes they can find out which ads placed on our computer screen will be the products we are looking for and we may need.

When others treat you the way they would like to be treated whose needs are being put first?

Their’s or your’s?

If you then get upset because of the way they are treating you they can’t understand what the problem is. Why would you be upset? What’s wrong? I’ve treated you exactly how I would like to be treated. Yet it’s not about them, it’s about you…

When I have someone over for dinner, I have a preference for them to stay out of the kitchen and relax. It is their turn to be waited on, yet I have many friends who love to come and help out, offer to do the dishes and join in. When I go to people’s place for dinner, I have to remind myself (depending on the friend) to offer to help out otherwise it may seem rude to them.

It’s something that I got from my grandmother. When she had guests she looked after them and then in return she was looked after when she enjoyed other people’s hospitality.

It’s a different perspective and preference yet it can lead to misunderstandings and projections of being rude.

So how do you find out how people would like to be treated?

There’s the direct approach… Ask them. Which works well in certain circumstances and not so well in others.

And then, of course, you can watch, listen and learn to follow the other person’s lead. This is one of the best ways to develop empathy and create an understanding of differences between people. It will not only create good will but also allow you to grow as a person.

Treating others the way they would like to be treated doesn’t necessarily mean that you become their doormat and you do everything they would like. Make sure you still stay true to you. If you don’t believe a particular action will enhance your life and the lives of others, don’t do it.

Remember say yes to you, although you can still do that with kindness and respect for others.

Differences are a good thing.

They allow us to acknowledge other’s perspective, create empathy and a safe space for us to share ideas as a community.

So if you find yourself in a position where you would like someone to treat you differently, ask yourself whether you are treating them how they would like to be treated and if you are treating you how you would like to be treated.

Of course, you can’t expect others to treat you how you would like if you don’t do the same thing for yourself.

We all have our journeys and we are navigating them the best way we know with the tools that we have in that moment, so take a look around at your friends and family and ask yourself, who am I not treating the way they would like to be treated and with a little bit of effort you may be able to turn around a tumultuous relationship into one of love, respect and empathy in a very short time.

If you are having difficulty wondering why you have to do all the work, rather than them treating you the way you would like, contact me and we can figure it out together.

Loving you… Loving life…

3 Ways To Build Your Inner Strength

 

Do you constantly feel the need to protect yourself?

When you’re feeling flat, energetically low, depressed and life isn’t flowing the way you would like it, building your inner strength can change how you feel in an instant.

Have a listen as I explain each of the 3 ways to develop your inner strength so other energies simply don’t resonate with your morphic field.

 

 

Take the time to use these 3 tools on a daily basis and you will notice a difference in your life.

  1. Superwoman/man pose (image to come)
  2. I love that, I am that
  3. Allow the Divine to support you

If you’re really low on energy, to begin with, you can imagine doing the Superwoman pose and then as your energy grows, get up and do it!

If you’re not sure how to do this yourself, come and join the Free Divine Love Activations which happen every Wednesday where the energy for love is incorporated ===> Click here.

Loving you… Loving life…

The Best Question EVA!

Clients ask me what questions to ask…

Questions for all sorts of things like:

Clarity
Finding your purpose
Better relationships
Connecting with your loved one
Better health
What food to eat and exercise to do
To shift energy and blockages

I answer…

“Ask whatever feels right for you.”

And most of the time there is a sense of dissatisfaction that fills the air.

People’s thinking mind need to know answers.

They need to know that they are doing something right.

They need to know that they are making a difference.

They need to know that what they are doing is working otherwise why the hell are they doing it!

So, this is the reason why people ask me about exact questions to ask for specific situations.

I get it.

And most of the time they get it too.

It’s really quite funny and when we have a laugh, the energy shifts and whatever was the issue is now gone.

Questions are a personal thing and when I’m working with at client or in a group session I will read the energy and ask the specific questions.

However, when it’s just you… what do you ask? Click To Tweet

When I first started to explore the world of question asking I would ask,

“What question is required in this situation?”

And that would either lead to more questions bubbling to mind or it would shift the energy without continuing.

So…

“What question is required in this situation?”

If you continue to use this question for issues that arise in your life and stay open, you’ll find that more questions and then answers will come flooding into your awareness.

You’ll become your own walking, talking knowingness!

And then you’ll be able to move from questions that are primarily self centric – which is where most people are in their journey – to questions that are holistic in nature.

My favourite question at this moment in my life is…

“What can I be and do today that will contribute to my life and the lives of others?”

I ask this question every single day and my life just gets better and better!

This doesn’t mean that I’m out volunteering my time and energy every minute, every day.

It means that I’m taking care of myself and by increasing my frequency other people and environments will resonate with that energy.

My sister’s friend told me once just how much a single offhand sentence I said to her in passing had a huge impact on her life.

And I had NO IDEA!

I was simply contributing to myself and to others.

I definitely wasn’t actively trying to find people to fix or change.

I was simply being me.

Having fun at my sister’s house and loving my life.

As I ask this question on a daily basis… sometimes many times a day and I don’t go looking for answers.

I simply trust that my being and actions will contribute to my life and to the lives of others because really, who am I to think that I have all the answers for others in their life’s journey!

This question allows me to live my best life without having the pressure of thinking that I need to follow some amazing life purpose.

It allows me to trust that I am my life’s purpose.

If you’re struggling to find and be on purpose, please book a consultation with me today and we’ll get you on track.

Loving you… Loving life…

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What I Learned From A Concussion

Sometimes you have to be hit on the head to pay attention!

Have you ever been giving hints of something and not paid attention?

You would think I would know better considering the line of work I’m in, but when you want to get things done and to do so you need to power through, it is possible to overlook and ignore the warning signs.

A gorgeous lady I know (Maria Davis) has just done this and is now helping others from her experience.

She powered through and trained for and ran in the New York Marathon and has since been diagnosed with all sorts of ailments which are now forcing her to listen to her body.

We have all done something like this.

What if we could complete that process now? 😉

So, I was pushing through with my plans of moving house, developing a better relationship with my parents and creating more fantastic products for you guys and not listening to my body.

I knew my body was out of alignment.

I could feel it.

I knew I needed an alignment and Bowen Therapy kept popping into my mind.

I did nothing about it.

I knew I was going to trip over the computer power cord.

I didn’t move it.

I was ignoring all the signs.

So on the Thursday I slipped on the power cord and had bruise all down the right side of my body.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On the Sunday I hit my head on the frame of the fridge as I was getting up from the vegetable crisper.

I still didn’t get aligned.

On Wednesday I started to get a headache, my system was in shock and I got aligned.

And then I was in bed for 2 weeks!

Generally I don’t mind relaxing in bed as I have all my devices with me and can easily work, connect on Facebook and watch tv, if I so choose.

But when you have a brain injury, can’t string 2 words together and focusing your eyes hurt there is not much to do except be.

Being…

Not something I had been doing lately.

I was being in my work for the Divine Love Club, but not being for the sake of being.

I had been being for others, not for me.

And there had been a lot of doing!

In our world where doing is the most important thing to achieve what you think you want, being sometimes gets lost.

This also happens in relationships as your energy merges with another and you slowly but surely begin to lose that connection with yourself.

It doesn’t have to be that way and you can create a relationship beyond your dreams when you connect with you.

It takes 5 or 10 minutes a day to connect with the being that is you.

To breathe and be grateful for the beauty within and without and to create a day where you will be aware of what you are being shown by the Universe.

We are always lead in the direction that will bring us into love.

Whether you judge the direction as bad or good, that’s up to you.

The direction is simply a direction and how you choose to navigate it will allow you to stay on the same path or change directions.

If I had listened to myself when I first knew my body needed an alignment or even before that and simply had regular alignments, I may have been able to take the time to be during my day.

And I now ask the Universe/my other than conscious mind to complete that cycle so that I can now choose a different path.

My wish for you is for you to take a deep breath right now, connect with your heart space and to allow yourself the time to be in this moment.

Look around you.

What do you see?

What are you grateful for?

And what do you need to align yourself with your body and with Oneness?

What if you could disentangle from all that is going on with you, your body and your life right now?

And re-align with Oneness?

Could you?

Would you?

When?

And as you go about your day and live your life, remember to listen the whisper quiet awareness that has your back, be in the moment and take action when required.

And so will I!

On a side note, this could also have been an Upper Limit Problem or a mixture of both. It really doesn’t matter as my inner being has my back and I am now creating from the space of now.

Are you ready to create from now? If so, book your consultation with me today and you’ll be able to do it without being hit on the head!

Loving you… Loving life…

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