Please Stay…

What do you do when your partner won’t commit?

Quick answer…

Say thank you!

And realise they are doing you a FANTASTIC service by showing you that you may need to spend a little bit of time connecting with you.

Longer answer…

I spent years… literally years, decades even trying to figure out what I was going wrong in my relationships.

Sometimes it was pretty obvious (actually most of the time) and then there was the odd occasion that had me stumped.

Many of the men I was attracting (and if you’re attracted to women, please substitute women wherever I have written men, as it works both ways) simply didn’t want to have a relationship with me as their partner.

They were happy to have friends with benefits or even go so far as call me their girlfriend but it was all on their terms. They wouldn’t put themselves out for me and I couldn’t figure out what was going on.

It wasn’t until I started working on who I was as a person and connecting with that part of me that was ok with or without a relationship that a wonderful man came into my life.

It was funny, as I was connecting with my beautiful self the Universe would send men to me that were a little better than the last.

I then had to decide if this one was the one that I would like to continue to be around.

If yes… great.

If no… still great!

Because I was completely ok with who I was at that particular moment in time.

My question to you is…

“Are you ok within you if he/she stays or goes?”

And if you say yes, but you still want to have a relationship with them but they are not interested, let them go.

Letting them go doesn’t necessarily mean break up with them.

What?

I know… a little weird but say with me and you’ll see where I’m going with this.

Letting them go energetically allows both you and them the space to find out what they require in their life.

It doesn’t matter if you do this for them or for you, just as long as when you are giving them the space they need you take full advantage of it.

So what do you do with all this time you have up your sleeve?

  • Go and do something that you have always wanted to do.
  • Reconnect with friends you haven’t seen in awhile because you’ve been focused on this other person.
  • Do some soul searching.
  • Discover what you would really like in a relationship – and then throw your list out!
  • Look at areas in your life where you aren’t willing to commit to yourself.
  • Learn to love yourself more than you love this other person.
  • Be happy!

Do you know that one of the most sexy attributes in a person is one who is happy within themselves? Click To Tweet

As you give yourself the time to connect with you, you’re also giving the other person the space to do the same.

(Although one of the best ways to stop someone from doing this is to tell them to go and connect with themselves!)

During this time you will notice a change in your relationship.

They will want to either want to be with you or you will feel the need to move on from this relationship.

And the timing of when this will happen is different for every relationship.

Do you get that you can’t make another person love you no matter how much you twist yourself up in knots for them. It simply is not how a happy relationship works.

When you recognise that you’re in this type of a relationship, this old adage becomes your mantra…

“If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it is yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.”

—Unknown

And then you choose what you would like to be and do today, tomorrow and for the rest of your life.

If you’re struggling with your relationship, please book your consultation with me today. Relationships have there ups and downs, yet if you’re not enjoying the process it’s always best to get some help.

Loving you… Loving life…

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Rosemary Davey

Rosemary Davey lives with her husband Scott and her fur babies in Western Australia. She has a background in Mind Body Medicine and Holistic Counselling and uses tools and techniques in her programs to enhance the relationships in your life.

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